Just found the thread!!!:wall:
Be back tomorrow to post. Hi to everyone, thought it was a bit quite......
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Just found the thread!!!:wall:
Be back tomorrow to post. Hi to everyone, thought it was a bit quite......
:partysmiley::happybirthday: Heidi, Nate, Posy, Anika and Jimmy and Emily.
Beautiful poem Tracey. :hug:
Sorry we were going to go to Adelaide - drove halfway then had to turn around, because I've got a cold and the boys are sneezing - and I didn't want to get stuck with a sick baby in the car (not when home is 1500km away).
Kaz - Alex went through a similar phase a few weeks ago. A friend has a baby who didn't sleep for 2 years - she'd spend 45 minutes settling bubs for a 2hr sleep. You need to look after yourself. Get DP to tend to bubs for a night/day - although it can be frustrating to spend your spare time sleeping.
I forgot to mention that I have a mattress on the floor in Alex's room, and when he wakes I talk to him, try and settle him that way - sometimes it work, others I have to put him on the BB, but it's the only way I can settle him. I found that if I get alex early before he wakes up completely (even the short distance between the bedrooms was too much) then he resettles pretty quickly... otherwise it takes me a long time to settle him.
Someone told me that if you ring up a childcare centre the day before, you can sometimes, you can find a temp place for bubs - maybe consider that, so you can have some time to yourself.
Bubs wellbeing is important, but mum's mental health is also important - maybe more important because if mum isn't functioning then how can she look after bubs?
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Hi girls,
Happy birthday to all the bubbas - Posy, Nate, Heidi, Anika, Jimmy & Emily!!
Thanks for Leon's birthday wishes and my get well wishes!
The last few days have been a real blur. Went to hospital on Wednesday as something happened to my back and I was in excruciating pain and couldn't move. To top things off, I had a bad reaction to the medication I was given so felt really nauseas and faint - couldn't even talk or open my eyes. The pain in my back subsided and I was discharged with a referral to a physio. I was away from L for over 12 hours :( My bbs were almost exploding by the time I got home! I then had a painful blocked duct for a day or two and had to persist with L to drain it. I had hardly any time to prepare for L's party yesterday and did the shopping the night before and cleaning in the morning! It was so unorganised and hectic. Too many people (even though about 20 didn't come), and my back was sore, plus I didn't get enough quality photos :(
Will catch up properly in the next day or so. Sooo tired!! And don't know where to keep the masses of toys he received!! xox
Holly, sorry to hear about your back. Hope it's nothing serious.
DH managed to take him to the show this afternoon and they had a blast. Glad we didn't persist going to Adelaide - Alex has come down with the cold and he's cranky baby.
Hey all,
Goodness me, I'm away for five minutes and a new thread with a millions replies! So much I have missed...
First of all, Tracey, your beautiful poem made me cry. I know you weren't meaning to but the emotion was so real. So bittersweet. Big hugs... I think of you often. :hug:
:happybirthday: to all the birthday babies I have missed recently!!!!
Malyna - DD had a cold the last few days, she has been cranky too. Poor things, hope A is feeling better soon!
Kailani - you poor thing with your back, then hospital, then reacting to drugs, then having to host a party!!! You must be so exhausted and out of whack. I really hope your back gets better soon and isn't anything too serious.
Heaven - how's your little teething baby going?? Hope she is back to her cheery self. I'm another who doesn't know how you guys all cope... we've had a bad couple of nights and I'm falling apart! Hats off to you!!
Nai/Olive - DD is a bit bigger than your girls! She was 9.91kg and 80cm! She's long and lean - only 50th for weight but way up for height (not sure where exactly but MCHN said she is the same heigh as an average 18mth old!). We have had to buy new clothes - she's just not fitting into zeros anymore! Where has my baby gone??
We need to organise 12mth injections too...
Oh and I turned the car seat around a few weeks ago... we had tanties every time we went near the car until I turned it around! Much happier now!
Kaz - I sort of hear you on the sleep thing. I don't have it as bad as you do - you poor thing - but I know how badly sleep depravation can wreck you! I actually took a sickie last week I was so exhausted! Luckily I've got 152hrs of sick leave so I'm pretty good. I really hope you can get some rest - it is so hard when DS is still feeding like he is overnight. Can you feed in bed? Get DP to bring him in to you, you can just lie there and doze while he feeds, then DP can take him back to the cot and do any resettling required.
Or what about sleeping in his room? I understand about cosleeping - it has never really worked for us either. Big hugs for you :hug:
Det - missed you at the BBQ on Sat! Was nice!
I know there has been lots more, so sorry girlies!
AFU: DD came down with a cold on Thurs, which explained to me why she was unsettled pretty much all night on Wed night. I called in sick on Thurs, shipped her off to the IL's house and went back to bed for a few hours. I was so exhausted - I'd settle her, then put her in the cot and she would wake. So I'd pat her tummy, she'd go to sleep, I'd sneak out and about 15 mins later she'd be screaming. That went on til about midnight when I gave up and camped out beside the cot with my hand on her tummy til about 5am when I made it back to bed. Then she woke at 6am :wall:
Worst night ever, like even since newborn I reckon. Then she got sick and I felt terrible for being frustrated with her - she was obviously feeling lousy and just needed a bit of comfort. It wasn't like I even did anything really, I just sat on the floor with my hand on her tummy. Maybe I should have tried a hot water bottle leaning on her tummy... or put the cat there :lol:
Anyway she's still waking frequently over night now - generally between 1am and 5am... just yells out, cries out, makes noise... Yawn... so tired...
Apart from that, we got a new car - Hyundai Santa Fe, and my little Mazda is being picked up by its new owners tonight! Sad, but exciting that I got a new car!
Not much else to report!
:happybirthday: to Grace!!! Hope you've had a great day together hun! The pictures on FB are very cute.
Holly - Sorry to hear you've had such a rough trot lately. That really sucks. I hope you're feeling better and more on top of things soon. Take care of yourself.
Malyna - Hope you and A are feeling back to normal soon. Colds are yuck :(
OP - I can't imagine being woken regularly by a one year old and being pg at the same time. You must be SO tired. Glad to hear you took a sickie from work though!! There should be more of that I think!! Yay on your new car too.
AFM - Busy few days, been away and then back last night and off again to swimming today (in the next major town west of me). We did have one night a few nights ago when DS only woke once between 11pm and 7am :hooray: but then I woke up with a lump in my left bbie and had to massage and feed off that side heaps etc. Was worried about mastitis but needn't have bothered cos he woke 1.5hourly the next night :rolleyes: At least that cleared the lump.
Happy birthday Grace! And belated one for Anika!
Kaz- 1.5hrly! You msut've felt tired! I hope he repeats the one wake up.
OP- wow she is tall! Is there tallness in your family? When do you go on mat leave?
Holly- oh god, how are you doing now? What a stress!
Malyna- lucky you turned back if A is off, hope it was a nice drive!
I am exhausted from Emily's party yesterady, was great day tho. Emily had no clue what was going on but of course big sister Ash helped with the present opening and candle blowing.
Happy Birthday Grace!!! hope you had a wonderful day gorgeous!!
kaz welcome back! hope the good sleep happens again soon !
holly glad Leons party went well, hope your back is better :hug:
shell the big sisters love helping with presents dont they!!
OP hope the colds all leave soon :hug:
AFM sorry this is short and sweet, trying to stay off when DH is home
sleep has benn ok this past week, woken once a night 5/7 nights, i resettled her at 11.10pm last night and she then slept til 3.30am so i feel like we may be getting somewhere! who knows, it all might change next week and probably will!
M said another word today-fish! love one of sophie's fish's that she made at kinder that i have up on the window,points to it allll the time!
walking all the time now!
Happy Birthday Grace
OP - far out on the night's not sleep
Shell - love the birthday party help.
Really glad we turned back, Alex's nose has been running all day today and DH has been feeling sick as well - DH is settling Alex at the moment he did it last night - on the lounge in front of teh TV - hey it's not perfect but it works and tonight I really don't care about being perfect!
Thanks guys!! Big day!! Be back tomorrow!! Can't believe I have a 1 year old!!
Happy Birthday Grace!
Sorry - short and sweet from me. I am at work and have a cold. Miss J almost better but seems to have passed it on to me :(
Morning ladies,
Hope Grace had a great bday Heaven! Loved all the pics and stuff on FB :D
Thanks all for your well wishes! Feeling much the same - tired and like a cold is coming on. But no cold yet so fingers crossed somehow the germs have not set in...
Nai - so sorry you're feeling miserable! And at work too!
Malyna - hope you and A are feeling better soon :hug: Sounds like it was a good idea to turn back. I couldn't imagine driving to Adelaide with a sick bub!
And who cares about "perfect" - do what works!
Olive - DD loves fish too! We took her to the aquarium in Sydney while we were up there and she went nuts - could not stop saying "Fssshhhh!", so excited! Its gorgeous! Wooo on your little walker! We are not quite there yet...
Shell - sounds like the party was hard work, rest up! So cute that Ash was helping :D
Yep - DD does have tall genes in her, I am 5'9" and DH is 6'3" :o She is going to be a tall one!
Kaz - good work on the mastitis prevention, even if you didn't need to! Sounds like you guys are having a few good periods, that's great! Positive thoughts now they will continue and grow... you can do it! :hug:
Hi to everyone else!!!
AFM: DD took a few steps on her own on Monday, which elated me but depressed me as it was while I was at work :( Feel like a bad mummy, I missed it. She has done it again since but still... I really am not happy being at work, I feel like I am missing out on milestones and I don't like it. I know she has no idea but still.
Ah well, it is only for a few more months...
Hi all,
Just feeling really depressed atm... :(
Found out I have a cyst around one of my impacted wisdom teeth and my jaw/gums/tooth are really painful. It's going to cost me over $4000 to remove the teeth and cyst. I am going to try and get into the dental hospital as an "emergency" but if I can't I will just have to pay and go private - it's too sore to wait on a list for public and the surgeon I saw yesterday said I need to have the cyst removed as soon as I can and have it sent off to pathology.
L's behaviour is really upsetting me too. I am so over it now. I'm grateful in a way that he showed his true colours today at the health centre for his 12 month check, because now the nurse knows I'm not exaggerating! He had a full on tanty - she couldn't even do some of the checks because he wouldn't calm down, bucking, screaming and stiffening up. Before I left, she gave me an info sheet on tantrums :redface: Subtle? Also the sleeping and eating is going poorly and the clingyness is doing my head in and I can't get anything done. She thinks I should go to the Queen Elizabeth Centre so I am going to ring them soon...
Uni started this week and I still haven't bought the books! It's honestly the last thing on my mind and I'm stressing out as I need to do well this year. Grr just wish L would settle down! I think he's awake, I can hear some movement on the monitor :rolleyes:
Sorry for selfish post...don't know if I'll get online much. Just too muddled! Take care all xox
Nai - hope you feel better soon.
OP - :hug: It sucks that you're missing milestones but you are so far from a bad mummy! FWIW, I am convinced that DS will walk for the first time in care too. I just rang them today and he will start (gradually) next week. Feel a bit sad about it (end of an era at home and all that) so I think I kinda know how you feel. When do you finish up at work?
Holly - :hug: look after yourself hun. You've got heaps on your plate atm. Wisdom teeth are so painful and that is an ouchy amount of money you're talking about there. DS has been clingy lately too (although I know you've had it much worse for longer) and it's so hard to get anything done. Just focus on the basics - keeping him and you fed and comfortable. That's all that matters right now. Forget housework. Can you order the uni books online to save time going to shop for them? I don't know what the QE centre is but I hope they can provide you with the help and support that you need.
Ok, time to catch up! I think I'll just do this page.
OP- Sleep is a little better, just waiting for these bloody molars to come through!! There's HUGE lumps there, looks sore. Hope you're getting a bit more sleep! Yay on the steps! Big girl! Not long and you'll be a SAHM again :hug:
Kaz- Glad you avoided the mastitis!! What's with all the booby troubles in here?? I thought mastitis and stuff only happened in the early days, shows how much I know!!
Shell- Love the new av if I haven't said it already!! Glad the party was good. I'm a bit worried about DD's on the w/e, seems like more ppl are coming than expected, think it's going to be squishy! Especially if it's raining!
olive- One wake up is awesome!! LOL DD loves fish too, her fav book is Jonah and the whale and she points to all the fish.
Malyna- Hope Alex and DH are feeling better!
Nai- Oh another sick on, feel better!!
Holly- :hug: Sorry to hear you aren't feeling too good. What is the Queen Elizabeth Centre? We are having some tantrums here too. I have found it helps to tell her what we are going to be doing, get down on her level and look in her face and tell her, e.g. 'ok, we have to put down the toy now and we're going to go change your nappy'. Some things (like nappy change, sleep time, food, drink) she understands but mostly she has no idea what I'm on about but it just gives her a bit of time and distracts her so she can adjust to the change of activity and we avoid a tantrum. When I thought about it I realised I was just whisking her off to do things I needed to do and she was probably not even aware I was going to grab her and was really in the middle of something so she would get angry at me seemingly coming in and disrupting her all the time. HTH a little.
Well we had a great day for DD's b'day. Did all the things she likes to do, lol. She's so grown up now, a toddler not a baby, and is starting to look like a real little girl and get a real personality, she's so cheeky!! LOL. I am loving this age right now and feel sad she's growing up so quick!
Holly - big hugs for you, that really sucks about your teeth and even more about the cyst. I really hope it is all ok and once you get it out and all sorted that nothing further needs to happen.
Re - the QEC - I have heard really really good things about them. Ring them up, it is worth it. If they don't help, hey at least you tried. Remember I took DD to the O'Connell Centre when she was only 3mths? It helped, if nothing else they reinforced that I am a good mummy and I know what is best for my daughter.
If QEC can't fit you in or whatever, maybe try the O'Connell Centre - they are linked with the Mercy Hospital and are great. Gentle parenting and all that, no CC. Based in Camberwell I think it was.
Can you defer uni for a semester??
I hope you get yourself a bit settled hun. :hug:
Holly - :hug: ouch with the wisdom teeth and the cyst. Can't help much with the tantrums - alex throws them and I just say to him "You ain't getting anything while you scream at me" and wait for him to calm and then give him whatever it was he was chucking a tanty and say "Please Mum and thankyou mum" - heck I don't know if it's right but it's working for us.
I will also turn my back on him or my attention away from him when he's chucking tanty.
Kaz - :hug: on going back to work.
Heaven - the birthday sounds great.
AFU - we are getting over the cold DH and I are still suffering and Alex is heaps better - LOL - go breastmilk!
Holly- :hug: Have you got in contact with the QEC? Do you think maybe it all going hand in hand like the poor sleep affecting behaviour and eating?
Do you know what the waiting list is like for your tooth? God you have a lot on at the moment with uni starting also. I wish I had more I could offer.
Heaven- Grace and Emily got the same couch for birthday lol.
OP- I know it sucks when they do stuff while at work, try not feel guilty bout being there. Sometimes we need to work, gotta pay bills, mortgages etc.