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Most important news first! I have a walking baby!!! Kyson is now taking steps (rather than just "step", lol).
Video of Kyson walking
It's sooo true that all babies develop and hit milestones at different times. Kyson seems to be walking pretty early, but he has no teeth yet, and he's not saying any "real" words. Sure, he makes some "dad dad", and "mum mum" noises, but I don't count them as words because he's not associating them with us yet. I was in no rush for him to get teeth, but now that he's kicked the teething up a notch I really hope they pop through soon!
Now I'll spill the beans as to why I changed my username and all the secrecy... I've just changed my signature so it doesn't have the a.k.a. in it anymore so people can't google my name and find my posts...
So the secret is that DH and I are in the process of planning to ttc for number 2, but we may not be taking the natural path. We're currently going through the early stages of IVF (tests and counciling) with the plan on having PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) to avoid having a baby with a genetic condition that is present on both sides of our families. I hope it's not rude or mean if I decide not to divulge what the actual condition is... We've got our fingers crossed that Kyson is not affected (he's too young to diagnose) but rest assured it's not life threatening.
I was thinking about keeping the whole thing a secret even on BB, but it's such a new experience (and possibly a difficult one at that) that I thought I might need the support from the lovely ladies on this forum. We've decided not to tell any family or friends IRL though (besides my mum who helped us with Kyson at a couple of appointments). We figured that we don't tell people when we are planning on dtd to make a baby, so they don't need to know about our ttc journey for number 2.
So far I've had my first visit with my IVF specialist consultant (he was absolutely lovely), DH and I have both had blood taken for tests, I've had a pelvic ultrasound, DH has had a sperm analysis (donating sperm at 8am before work was fun for him, lol), we've had our compulsory IVF counciling session, and next Wednesday is our PGD counciling session with the geneticist and genetic councellor. The week after that I have another appointment with our IVF specialist which is when I think we find out if we have the green light to go ahead.
The main reason I feel that I need to keep things a secret is I'm worried about us being judged by people. I even brought up with the specialist that I sort of felt guilty about seeing him for IVF when I'm able to fall pregnant naturally, but he was very quick to remind me that we are doing it for legitimate medical reasons. I told him I felt guilty that I might be taking up his time and resources that someone else should be getting, then he asked how long it had needed to wait between calling for the appointment and seeing him. It was only 1 1/2 weeks (AND he only works at the local clinic once a week...) and he told me that if there was a huge waiting list for spots then there was no way I would have gotten in that quickly. Hmmm, see I still feel like I have to justify it even now while I write...
Well, at this point in time I'm really hoping that everything goes ahead and I'm pretty excited about it. I know it's not going to be a walk in the park, but I'm sure I can walk this path. If you've gotten through my rant, then thanks for reading :)
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Krystie - I am honoured that you trust us to share this news with us, and I hope that we can live up to your hope that we can support you through this - you know that we are here for you all the time and the ups and downs of TTC whether its the old fashioned way or AC brings happiness, stress, worry, but hopefully reward at the end of it all.
From an IVF perspective, I won't lie, it is the biggest emotional rollercoaster I have ridden (pre Bailey being born of course hehehe), but you have ALOT of people to support you, those of us that have been there might be able to add some insight and support you on a different level, but either way, I wish you the very best of luck and baby dust.
Personally from my experience, I think its a good idea not to tell too many people as from our experience I found it hard dealing with needing to 'update' people on what was happening, or dealing with suffocating sympathy, or a bit of ignorance. Its a time when you just have to focus on you, DH, Kyson and your goal. Anyway, Sean and I were extremely lucky to conceive Bailey in our first round of IVF, I know this is NOT the norm, but whatever your journey brings, any questions, support, venting, crying on someones shoulder that you need etc ..... I am only a phone call away. We were very lucky that our best friends (and Bailey's god parents) also went through IVF and were the most wonderful support to us, and I hope to pay that support forward one day.... so anyway, thanks for trusting us with your TTC journey, I hope its a speedy one mate
Nay
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PS - Kysons walking video is GORGEOUS, what a clever clever little boy you have there :)
ETA - Oh I meant to say too, there is NO reason that you should feel the need to justify your reason to take the IVF journey, there are many reasons couples choose to go down this route, and yours are just as legitimate as every other couples :)
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I meant to make mention of our current Wonder Week in my earlier post and forgot....
This is isn't too bad at all, Bailey's napping is a bit haphazard and he has been a bit out of sorts, but it seems quite 'tame' compared to some or the wonder weeks we have experienced (or wonder fortnights as a few seemed to be LOL)
Also, I reckon the amber teething necklaces are awesome, I really think they work
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Krystie: LOVE the vid of Kyson! He has such a beautiful smile and looks like such a happy little soul.
As Naomi said, I really hope we can be a good support to you as you embark on this journey. I understand your reservations about sharing, and about being judged, but your dr is right. A week and a half's wait is nothing. (FWIW, the dr I'm working for does public and private clinics. The wait for private is about 4 months, and for public it's about 8 months.) Plus, whether or not people choose to go ahead with IVF has nothing to do with you... There are a whole lot of philosophical arguments people can make for or against IVF. Really, the only person who needs to feel comfortable with your decisions is you. You know your reasons, so be confident babe. We would be honoured to support you as best we can. xx
And PMSL @ RAK sounding a bit rude. I have always said Naomi has a nice RAK...
BG: I really hope today goes as well as it can. Will be thinking of you.
Nic: I will be thinking of you too today. I hope the CT goes well and that everything looks favourable.
Nicky: It ain't going to be me either, LOL! I'm done. Stick a fork in me.
Vic: Isn't your DH lovely to get you some yummy chocolate!
Yes, even though it's been raining it is still mighty sticky. The rain just makes it worse. But it has been great for the dam - lots of rain over the catchment which is never a bad thing.
Phoebe cracks me up. Have any of you got a Tivo? There's a menu screen with a shaded red background and one with a shaded green background. Phoebe doesn't pay attention to the TV very much. She looks up every now and again when the Thomas theme song plays. But if she happens to see either menu screen her face just lights up and she grins from ear to ear! This morning she was giggling at it and I brought her a bit closer to the screen to see if she'd give me an indication of whether it's an icon or something that she likes, but nope. She just loves the colours, I suppose. It's so funny though. Like watching telly for the ads.
She has started shuffling on her hands and knees now. Inching around very slowly without any technique, but I guess we can call it crawling :)
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K - thats awesome good luck xoxoxo i had a feeling that was going to be happening go kyson walking already :)
Jamie is 9 months today off to take pics with his teddy lol
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K - like the others, i'm honored that you've chosen to share this with us. there is no judgement here. and there never will be. and please don't ever feel you have to justify your reasoning. you are making a decision to follow this path, and you deserve, and will receive, nothing but support from us. please know, if you need support off the boards, i've had a lot of dealings with friends going through PGD (as well as my looooooooooooooong and extensive AC journey) so i'm happy to help in any way i can - even if it's just a chin wag in FB chat or something.
ooh, and i forgot - YAYAYAY!! for the walking vid - so cute!
Amy - how's the job going? sounds like you're settling in ok
Nicole - thinking of you and hoping today wasn't too traumatic forr you all - hope you get results soon
AFU - tired tired tired. so proud of my bubba though! she was her perfect little self. slept most of the car trip there (after she realised that YES, mummy AND daddy were with her in the backseat) - woke when we stopped half way for a cuppa, then had to be woken when we got to the funeral. would have been fine to stay inside with her if the church was better equipped, but no speaker in the second room we were sitting in, so i took off outside with her. so very well behaved though. slept on the way home as well. she has been so very good though. disappointed with the send off - T wasn't religious but his wife was, so she made it too much based around her church - and people just couldn't hear what was going on - i think he deserved more - but it was her decision. oh well. we went. we paid our respects. that's all we could do
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hes going feral lol he bit me 3 times today and i have no idea wat to do ive been trying to keep the dummy away during the day maybe i should give it back and hes turned velcro all of a sudden when hes never been like this i think he knows not sure but since i found out yesterday hes been weird ''
sorry its all about me but ive never been good a persies coz i never know wat to say but i love u all xoxoxox
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You girls are all so sweet that it brings tears to my eyes (literally!). I'm so glad I decided to tell you all. Gosh it feels like such a weight off my shoulders. Hopefully after our appointment on Wednesday I'll be able to give you all some promising news :)
BG - What a little angel you have! Isn't travelling with a baby much easer when they decide to sleep the trip away? Kyson slept the entire way to Gold Coast which was awesome. Even though he was such a good boy on the trip home, it was much more difficult with an awake baby. Sorry to hear the send-off wasn't all you hoped it would be. :(
PS. Your explanation of the cc rebate etc on Nay's fb was amazing! I've been told to look into carer's allowance because of the extra care that I put in for my eldest DSS's ADHD, so I put in an intention to claim today and within 20 minutes a lovely lady called me and talked to me about it! I was amazed how quick it happened. Not sure if we'll get anything, but I figure it's worth a go :)
Amy - It's funny the things these bub's like isn't it? Kyson loves the sound that the sci-fi channel logo makes as it's returning to a tv show. It sort of makes a "briiiing" noise and his head always flips around to look at the tv if he hears it, lol!
Jacinta - Maybe Jamie is hitting the same wonder week as Bailey? Is he starting to learn something new? I thought Kyson's bad sleeping at night was due to his teething (which is probably still affecting him), but I now wonder if a part of it was because he was learning to walk as well...
Nay - Ahhh you're a sweetheart. I'm not 100% sure what I might be getting myself into in regards to physical and emotional effects, so it's great to know I have "back-up" if I need to chat. I'm sure my body is just going to loooove the drugs *dripping sarcasm*. Most meds make me ill, even panadol makes me a little squeemish, lol. The good news is that while the estimated success rate for someone my age is about 50% per cycle, my doctor is estimating that my chances are probably closer to 60% or higher due to having proven fertility with my two previous pregnancies, and also because DH has proven that his swimmers have learnt freestyle. I hope it all works first go, because I'm really not even contemplating the "what if" at the moment... oops.
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Krystie - Completely with the other girls. No judgement at all here. I really hope the your IVF journey is a quick one and that you can be blessed with another beautiful bundle.
Wishing you all the very best and if you are happy enough to shar, I'd love to hear all about your journey.
Hi girls!
Been out at strength training tonight, and I'm stuffed. Not alot of shut eye last night, but no idea why. Hubs got up at 4am to watch the bl@@dy nascars.....
Kids are going well. Allira's perfectly fine. Still no teeth, but the lumps are there, they can only be week away now.
Argh, that's about it for me... time for some shut eye.
Will pop back tomorrow. (sorry for sucking majorly with persies lately).
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maybe walking it could happen lol any ideas on how to stop him from biting me?
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Sorry for no proper persies tonight. Will def come back tomorrow when I get some time.
Krystie- NO judgement here. We are all here to support you in anything that you do. I can relate on the genetic thing though. I want to say something, but I want to word it right, so will think more, and write tomorrow. It's nothing bad, so don't stress.
BB tomorrow.
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Krystie, I just want to wish you all the luck on your IVF journey I too have no judgement against this path.
I hope your journey is short and sweet and supporting you all the way to a BFP.
It can be tough and gets you both mentally and physically but hell I would do it again...bring it on...if only I could get my DH to agree I sort of need his help :lol:
Thanks for all your thoughts ladies :hug: Aaron's CT went well today...boy it was FAST!!! SOoooooo much faster than the MRI and no sedation needed just mummy singing to him...so missed my calling...NOT!!!!
So now we wait hope to get some news this week but as they say no news is good news :pray:
Aaron thought he was a NB last night going back the 3 hourly feeds...could not believe it but after talking to Bridg agree that it must be a growth spurt cause he has been having about 4 sleeps during the day for last couple of days!!
Anyway of to catch a few Zzzzz who knows what Mister sleeps will be like tonight.
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Hey Girls!
I'm having a rough night here...Cara has been crying a lot tonight and seems to be teething badly...I gave her some panadol (I've run out...those bottles are so tiny). So she only got a tiny bit of panadol. Can't find where I've stuck her teething necklace (or mine) either..arhghhhh. She's not sleeping well again...wonder week?? Learning to sit up and try to crawl (still rocking on all fours) must be doing it too.
Have I been RAKed?? Ooh that is exciting!! Made my day! :) Thank you to whoever RAKed me!! Woohoo!! How do I get the funky avatar...I can't seem to work out how to do it on here..arghh. They are so cute.
Cara is sitting up!! I have seen her (esp tonight) sit up from the crawling/all 4s position about 3 times tonight!! So excited for her! Trying to get her to clap too hehe. I have been putting her little hands on my face, then bringing them down off my face to 'clap' hehe. She should start that soon..I remember the other kids doing it around 8-9mths. Plus she'll be pulling to stand up soon too.
Krystie: Kyson is walking! So exciting!! I love the video too! And with your ivf decision, you have to know we are always in supportive of whatever you and your family want honey. :) All the best!!
JwithJ: Congrats!!! OMG!! How exciting!!!! LOL@Jamie biting you...maybe he knows you're pregnant hehe
BG: Glad to hear Miss E slept well on the trip. So sorry for your loss. :(
Naomi: Your little guys smile never fails to brighten my day! Laura is often asking "who is he Mum?" hehe. Good to see another bub with a necklace hehe. I feel bad I forgot Cara's when I went to Seaworld, the other bubs had them on!
Bel: Nice to hear how your first time selling baby wraps went. I am sure business will be booming soon!
Amy: LOL@Phoebe! Cara will stop whatever she is doing if she hears the Mickey Mouse clubhouse theme or Special Agent Oso (Laura's two favourite shows). I am sure she remembers them from in the womb!!! (Yasmin would stop what she was doing when the Home and Away theme song came on when she was a baby..we even have video of her almost falling sideways to turn around and see it). If someone is in Cara's view of the tv, she will move her head to try and watch!!! ADDICTED! already!
Nicole: Glad to hear the CT went well. I hope it's good news for little Aaron.
Everyone else, sorry, I'm just buggered.. xoxox to you all.
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morning all!
sorry to hear others are going through some sleep issues as well - E has been, since we started solids, feeding three hourly overnight again. it mostly doesn't worry me - she lets out a bit of a yell to say she's awake, DH deposits her in bed, we doze while she feeds, then he puts her back into bed - so no one really loses any sleep (some morning one of us won't remember the feeds - zombies!). i think it would be a whole lot worse if she was distressed and not resettling though. hope these bubbas can get themselves in better sleeping habits overnight soon! us mummy's need a break lol
K - i'm sure you'll go over a lot with the doctors and stuff, but if you need to talk, i'm happy to chat with you. have been supporting a couple of friends through PGD recently so have discussed it all at length with them if you need to talk it out. medico's are good but the time they have for you can be a bit limited - i'm available to waffle 24/7 if you need it lol (and yes, i do mean all day - have had melt down text messages at 3am and gotten myself out of bed to help friends through tough bits)
meant to say earlier too - hope that whatever the genetic issu is that you're trying to avoid using PGD hasn't impacted Kyson at all. i think sometimes the waiting to know is harder than knowing for sure. how old will he need to be before you find out?
go for the Carers with the ADHD - if he requires extra care then you should get it. even if his doctors report doesn't deem that he requires enough additional care for the payment, there is a secondary level of Carers where the child gets their own health care card (helps with cost of meds and treatments he may require).
Nic - so glad there was no sedation needed for the CT and that it went off without a hitch. we're all here for you if you need any support. which reminds me - most of us have shared mobile numbers for support/meet ups/melt downs over slow cookers (hehehe sorry Vic - i had to!) - i'll PM you mine. hoping you get some feedback soon on the results
Bridg - read your update on FB about the scan - hoping you can get some answers soon. i know things must be full on at the moment for you so wanted to publicly thank you for taking the time out to PM and chat with me about the eye specialist while you have so much on your plate. you rock hun!
Cathy - Cara seems to be doing really well. she may not be crawling but is coming ahead well! E won't sit herself up from being on her belly yet - but she's a lazy trout like that! she commando crawls or rolls everywhere, will walk if she is standing on her feet - and can sit herself from some positions, but just doesn't seem that interested lol. this little group here have shown just how varied baby development is. we've all hit the wonder weeks at different stages (but hit them hard in some cases), crawling, walking, teething, talking! i guess it's a good thing to see that all bubbas are different like that.
well, i'm gonna have to get organised soon. E has been asleep for 10 hours(with brief 10 minute feeds in there) - so she must be tired from yesterday. we're heading out with mum for the day (was supposed to happen yesterday) to see some of her friends that haven't seen the baby in weeks/months and are hanging to see her. not my idea of the funnest of days, BUT, it gets us out of the house and reduces the cabin fever just a smidge. mum is picking us up at 10 so E best wake up soon lol
we're both a bit pink from the sun yesterday (damn our fair skin) - her's isn't too bad cos she was kept in the shade all the tiem - mine - well i have patchwork sunburn. after the missed sun screen spots on thurs (thanks mum) i have spots on my arms and back of my neck - yesterday i think i got sunburnt through the car window - but just on one side of my neck and chest lol. stupid sensitive sin hehehe
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Hah Amy - my RAK was so much better when I was BF - PMSL. Bailey was really interested in TV when he was a newborn, but it didn't last long but now he seems a bit interested again. I usually put it on in the bedroom most mornings and lie on our bed with him playing while I watch sunrise - he gets excited by Kochie's finance screen (it is pretty colourful LOL). Maybe he'll follow me into financial services one day hahahaha. I think you are right though, anything colourful certainly attracts some interest. We got given a whole heap of kids DVDs from Seans cousin and I put a Barney one on the other day and played a whole heaps of songs - he loved it, was bopping along and 'singing' - very cute. Good on her for her shuffle-crawl, she's on her way....! LOL @ "stick a fork in me", you are a crack up along with your beautiful daughter! PS. Get some more photo's up on facebook of the girls you slacker, I mean its not like you have two kids, a job, a house and a husband to look after .... :D
Congrats on Jamie hitting 9 months Jacinta - he's been in the outside world as long as he was in your belly :bellyrubs:
BG - you can always rely on E to have a fantastic day when you need her too, she really is a trouper and such a beautiful baby. Cheers for the CC rebate etc explanation - you explained it beautifully, cheers for that! I think I just need to register for it now so one more Q - we dont start CC until mid July - how far in advance do you need to organise it with CL? Take care of that sunburn - I'm a pasty skinned gal too, I don't tan, I just go red, then back to pasty LOL
Nicole - glad the CT scan was over quick and not distressing for Aaron, fingers crossed re waiting on the news, hope it doesn't do your head in babe, waiting can suck, try to distract yourself and keep busy so you dont worry about the results (great advice, hard to follow though hey?). Definately sounds like a growth spurt, hope you get some larger blocks of sleep soon babe
Bridg - glad the hips showed up clear - BLOODY HOORAY!! :leap: How are you travelling beautiful? You've had an awful lot on your plate of late and you are one strong and tough Mummy - I think you are awesome :)
Oooh, I'll be right back, I just realised what the time is and I need to chuck Bailz in bed for a nap before swimming so he doesn't do the 'snore-stroke' in the pool LOL
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Naomi - you can register for child care whenever you want in advance - as long as you're registerd within four weeks after starting. all it will do when you register is give you your percentage - from there you grab all of your CRN's (yours, DH's and bubs) and you'll put them on the forms to register with child care - the CC will then tell you how much you have to pay each day...
E has been awake about 20 mins and has been into everything - think she is making up for being restricted so much yesterday!
ooh, mum's here - time to run!
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Thanks BG - I'll register in advance so its done (one less thing to worry about at the time!!)
Cathy - Yaay re Cara's sitting. I've been trying to get Bailey to clap for a while, but he'll only clap on top of my hands LOL - crazy kid. Re the avatar - everythign you need to know is here https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...atar-faqs.html - Cant wait to see your Avi image!
Better run, swimming starts in 10mins and gotta get the little guy outa bed, lucky the pool is literally 3 mins away hahahaha
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Hi girls! How is everyone?
Just popping in to ask some advice.
I'm actually just wondering what your little ones' diets consist of?
I feel like Allira is stuck in a rut - Same old things day in day out.
Would love to hear how many meals and snacks your kiddies are having, along with how many milk feeds and what foods they are eating at each meal time.
