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QB, I'm hopefully starting back at the gym this week. All I've done so far is walk, walk, walk but my body is pining for the gym and all the associated pain that goes with it. I've noticed that I'm getting a tummy back again and half a kilo has found its way back onto my body. Obviously I've indulged in one too many biscuits (Anzac biscuits are my downfall - them and hot chocolate). I don't want to wake up one day to find a fat butt and a spare tyre around my middle! I was feeling pretty good about myself until yesterday when I caught a glimpse in the mirror. I've got a fitball at home so maybe I should start using it. BTW, does your DH happen to know how to get (baby) spew stains off of a couch? It's that "suede look" fabric.... I can see you're going to be very popular, well at least your DH's knowledge of carpet cleaning is anyway!! LOL
Thanx Cassi and QB! All ok...just keep on keeping on!
Took toddler to DR and she said virus so have to wait it out....been going for ten weeks!!! Gave him a cough medicine last night and he slept alot better. Damn MIL again! She had it just b4 Soph was born and she was organised to look after Will when DH at hossy 4 labour etc. I suggested asking SIL instead as last thing needed was sick toddler but MIL insisted that DR said she wasn't contagious. Thought it was hard to believe at the time...but what do you say to DH - "you Mum is full of it"??? Anyway - toddler was sick as a dog for my return home from hossy!!! Fortunately Soph hasn't had it as badly (but maybe breastmilk herlping her).
Enough feeling sorry 4 myself....
We went out to park this morning for fresh air...and Will and Soph had nice time and were happy ...thank goodness!
Since Soph has been sick with this virus her long sleeps have gone out the window...but still getting between 4 and 6 hours so that's ok.
She has become so much more alert in the last day or so....grabbing dangling toys and kicking a dangling ball ...looking at herself in mirror...talking and big cheesy smiles...rolling onto her side...and started holding onto me and pulling my hair. She is enjoying her playmats now which is great and gives me a little break. Her gaze while she is breastfeeding has changed and its great!!! She really is a good girl! Her wind is more under control..she gets a little but generally with the infacol and infants friend given at night she is feeling so much happier.
Hey girls,
I'm in recovery from holiday mode today. I think my washing machine will be going for 2 days straight to keep up.
I had a pretty disasterous weekend- Vent ahead, sorry...and I am so new too. Must feel comfortable with you girls
Mostly down to DH not getting the whole mothers day thing, for the 3rd time.
First mothers day, DD was 4 months, he came home with a roadside bunch of flowers. I got sad, we were doing it tough and I had just gone back to work (After 4 years of student poverty) and didn;t have a watch as well as loads of other things. I told him that it would have been nice if he had put some thought into it, breakfast in bed etc etc. He bought me a watch
Last year- I ran the mothers day classic last year and we were one week out from moving into our house. I was working full time and he was doing most of the house organising (tiring for sure) we woke up early to get to the run. I asked where my breakfast was so he went and got me breakfast and i got all sentimental with my DD telling her how much I loved being her mum etc (I am a big sop) and he didn't come back with my card or pressie (Even though we made sure we'd sent his mum something), I went quiet, arrived at the run and i said "Lucy is too young to say happy mothers day you know...." He had clean forgotton.
This year
We get up with our 2 babies and get ready for the race. No breaky in bed (Which I longed for as had been up feeding etc) We had spent large part of the days before organising pressies for his Mum, dad's partner and family friend who helped us A LOT with DD and I had even joked..."Do I need to remind you I am a mum too?"
We arrive at the run, I am feeding in the car, we're going to be late, friends I am meeting calling to see where we are. He gives me a card at this moment and tells me he didn't have time for a present. I burst into tears. We don't talk for the rest of the day. We spend time spoilng his mum, I keep hearing about how his brother was his SIL's slave for the day, everyone I know updates their FB status with how they've been spoilt and I am just trying to keep it all together. WE go to his Brothers for dinner and i am exhausted. DD won't go to sleep no matter what I do, I bath both kids and try desparately to get her to sleep (Not much sleep to be had the whole weekend) while his mum keeps meeting us in the hallway and offering her ice cream and strawberries hours after bed time GGRR
ANyway, lots of tears and I tell him how much it meant to be to know that I was appreciated. I love being a mum and wouldn't change it for the world, but it is hard, especially working so early this time
I Think we got somewhere, I hope so, I think we usually have such a great relationship but lately we've been slipping into bad habits with the tired blues, like not fixing an argument before bed...a promise we made. I'm going to stop here...hang out some washing and then reply to some of your posts. Sorry about the vent
LilsJula I have had a sick toddler for 10 weeks too, nasty cough mostly but she hasn't been sleeping well since Daniel was born. That wasn't part of the plan and is definitely forming the bulk of our sleep deprivation. Teh other night I only got 2 broken hours of sleep with a combination of feeds and burping and spewing (the little one) and cuddles and crying and settling (the big one). I had to work the next day and really don't know how I managed. So looking forward to only waking for a baby at night!
The BFRP's are shaping up nicely. I really need to stop eating chocolate. Breast feeding makes me ravenous and tiredness makes me crave chocolate big time. Bad combination. For me if I get the exercise sorted the food kind of follows.
The run was a bit of a disaster. I have a new cold (3rd round since Daniel was born) and had a bit of trouble breathing, My friend was up ahead so I told her to go. DH ran with me with the kids but we weren;t really talking. I cried a bit but had sunnies on so it just looked like sweat. My feet hurt, my lower tummy muscles caned but we made it. At the 5km mark Daniel decided he didn't like the stroller anymore so I carried him most of the rest of the way 2.2km and at over 6kg he's no light weight, But I was proud to carry my baby and hold my 2 year old hand across the finish. Looking forward to getting my fitness back though. My friend raised over $1100 for the breast cancer foundation and had something positive to think about on her first mothers day without her mum. SO I am really glad i did it. And it is a wonderful event. That and the Pink Tri I couldn't recommend more highly.
Re: sizes. DD was 4kg born but grew slowly and was in 0000's for 6 weeks I think. Daniel was 4.8kg and never fit into 0000's. He's really busting out of 000's now due to length, all the stitching on the feet of all in ones is coming apart. But we just haven't kept up.
DD was in 0's until about 12 months but I am imagining with Daniel it will be more like 6-8 months. maybe even earlier.
Its official that my little boy can't sleep on his back, he spews and is really uncomfortable. After 2 weeks of having him in our bed and matching his and hers cricked neck's I just ordered a co-sleeping basinette from the ABA, A ciot with 3 sides that attaches to the side of your bed. So looking forward to being able to sleep in more than one position but still have my boy close by.
Well the washing awaits.
Hope you're all well
And just in case you need to hear it. Being a mum is a tough gig, with the best rewards in the world, and you are all doing a wonderful job!
Happy Tuesday
Polly, we all need to vent sometimes so don't hold back in this group - we all have a turn!!!
Hope you're all having a better day than me!
Robert woke at 5.45 this morning. I gave him a feed and then put him back to bed. He didn't actually sleep I could hear him "talking" to himself but it gave me time to make DS1's school lunch and get some porridge for me. I sent DH an email while I was eating then got bubs out of bed. He was looking a little bit content so I put him in his bouncer in my ensuite so I could have a shower (DS1 had gone to school).
After my shower I fed bubs again and tried to convince him it was time for a sleep. It was just after 9am by this stage and he'd been up for 3 hours. By 10 I had decided that he could just go in his cot. The next two & half hours were a combination of him screaming and me crying, then him dozing and me singing. He was doing some major screaming and wouldn't settle at all, he even ended up with real tears. The longer he went on the more tired he got and the more frustrated I was getting. I did the calming breaths before going into the bedroom each time he started to get too worked up but to say it's tough is an understatement especially when you know that they will feel so much better if only they would go to sleep.
I gave up at 12 and thankfully he went off to exhausted la-la land on me after a feed. I put him in his bouncer and it better not run out of batteries just yet. It's been just over an hour and a half and I've got everything crossed he stays asleep for atleast another hour . He's at my feet in case I need to give him a "bounce" to resettle him.
Polly A - Sorry to hear you had such a sh***y day on Sunday but well done on the run! I understand what you mean about toddler and baby not sleeping! Last night toddler went to bed at 7.30pm and Soph at 8.30pm. I went to sleep around 9.30 but toddler was up with horrible coughing fit at 11.30 until about 12.15 - poor little bugger! I felt terrible 4 him and angry that I can't fix it for him and couldn't get back to sleep so read for a while. Finally get to sleep and Soph is up at 1.45am - good 6 hour stint for her but I had only been asleep half an hour!! Fortunately she resettled in 30mins! It is a challenge isn't it!
Cass - Sorry to hear you had such a frustrating day yesterday. Must have been something in the air. Soph refused day sleep in the day yesterday. She slept on me or in the baby bjorn only and only for a max of 40mins at a time. So I just strap her in and keep going or just chill out on the couch for a while if toddler will let me do so...I don't even bother fighting her re settling in her cot or bouncer...as I just get overwhelmed and upset. But Soph has only ever self settled once and my son (who is two) has only just started putting himself to sleep on occasion (now that I have cut out his day sleep and he is thoroughly exhausted!) Did your sling work???
My son is now 5 months old and i wondering how i go about getting him to sleep past 5am. He goes to bed at 6 pm everynight and sleeps through to 5am, than wakes for a bottle and goes back to sleep untill 730am. If i feed him when i go to bed around 11pm he still wakes at 5am for a bottle, if i feed him at 2am he still wakes at 5am for a bottle, so no matter what time i feed him he always wakes at 5am for a bottle. I dont usually feed him after he goes to bed at 6pm, but i tried feeding him late in the night to see if he would just sleep through to 730am but he always wakes. Ive tried to settle him when he wakes at 5am with no feed but nothing seems to be working, any ideas would be great...thanks.
Hi ladies. I was just thinking how quiet everyone's been then realised I wasn't getting emails .
We're doing pretty well here. Feeling a little tired but I guess that's to be expected for a few months yet. Toby's sleeping is pretty much the same - he did do 12am - 5am one night last week, which was great. Unfortunately that seems to have been a one off. He was in his own bed that night so I'm wondering if sleeping with me is actually disturbing him. He usually goes down in his bed for the evening and then comes in with us when he wakes for a feed around midnight but I might keep trying to put him back in his bed and see if he'll settle. I have mixed feelings about giving up co-sleeping but it's not about me and if the little guy is happier in his own bed then that's where he can be
Daytime sleeps seems to vary a lot. He will usually have a 1.5 -2 hr sleep in the morning if we're home and he gets the opportunity. Poor wee thing gets dragged around a lot with kindy drop off/pick ups and play-dates for his big sister. I've figured he's happy to sleep in his pram now though so that works ok if we're out.
Breesa - We bought an exersaucer and Toby loves it. I'm always scared about walkers getting caught on things and tipping over so I went for the stationary option I only put him in it for about 10 mins at a time now but will increase as he gets older and bigger. He still likes to sit in his swing, especially if he's tired and just needs to chill out. I face it towards the kitchen and he's happy watching me while I clean up. We have lots of great chats while I do the dishes. He's almost sitting up on his own now so I think the swing will become unnecessary soon.
As for headaches - I had a nasty migraine last week. It had been brewing for a while I think. I'm sure it's about now that the hormone 'relaxin' that keeps everything nice and flexi during pregnancy, has completely left our bodies. That combined with bad posture while feeding has made my neck, shoulders and back pretty tense and sore. Oh how I wish I had unlimited funds to put towards being massaged a couple of times a week!
Cass - You must be so pleased to be moving back to Canberra! Are you getting ready for all the packing yet?
LJ - How's it going with the solids. Glad to hear you got an hour to yourself. It's so nice to be alone sometimes!
I've had about 3 visits from AF now and I have definitely noticed some crazy moods around that time. I didn't notice any difference with feeding but wasn't really even thinking that AF would effect that. Will take note next time.
I've ordered a few MCNs now and have tried out 2 different brands - a WiddleWuns and a Bum Cheeks. LOVE them. I'm definitely a convert . It's a serious addiction though - I just want more and more! Toby looks so cute in them and in sunny Qld it's no problem to wash and dry them (unlike when I tried them with DD - Sth Island of NZ during the winter).
Brodie10 - Wow, you've got a great sleeper there! I wouldn't be too worried about a baby that's sleeping for 11 hours over night at 5 mths old. I think you'll find that as he gets older he may start sleeping a bit later without needing a bottle but for now I would just go with it. I don't know of many babies that age that sleep anywhere near that long over night. When I'm up during the night or early in the morning I just remind myself that it won't be forever and that I should make the most of all the extra snuggles I'm getting .
Need to get off to bed now - I'm feeling a little sore (read aching all over). Stacey and I began our path to being hot sexy mummas today . I am very proud of both of us as we have started the Couch 2 5K program after weeks of talking about it. Yes, it almost killed us but we hung on to the end and will be ready to go again on Wednesday (if we're not ready we will do it anyway!).
Sorry if I've missed anyone. Will attempt to get back soon. Have a good week!
Shell - Soph is still sleeping in basinet in our room..I have started her day sleeps in her cot in her own bedroom with the aim of moving to nights by 6mths. We well see how we go - the original plan was to move her when she was sleeping through or big slots of time as she wakes toddler when she cries but that never really happened...although we have had a couple of good nights lately goes down by 7pm and then she has a late evening feed - 10.30pm - and then 4am and sleeps till 7 or 8am.
Bree - It seems we are a long way of the all night sleep too
Jandals - Soph has finally taken to solids this week - corresponding with the better sleeps this week I think....She has had pears, apples and pumpkin and corn. We have started on her second meal of the day yesterday - just been building up an extra teaspoon each day.
Cass - Forgot to say so glad to hear you are going back to Canberra!!!
Soph has just begun to let us know when she doesn't want to do something. In the past, you could just put her in her rocker, for eg, and she would sit happily - now she let's you know if that doesn't suit her!!!
She is nearly sitting!!! Can hold it for about 10-20 secs without a wobble so very soon!!
I have had a funny time with breastfeeding - particularly on the right. She has been fussing and biting and crying and sometimes refusing the right. I thought it was just AF but that has just finished and she is still fussing today. Give it a day or two and see what happens..v frustrating. I think she is frustrated too about a slow let down at the moment - don't know why - having to use calming strategies to help.
Better go - toddler pulling out of of DH's work papers!!!
Just a quick msg to say on the topic of solids, Im planning on doing this baby guided approach as per the link below (really giving solids instead of baby mush)... thought it may be of interest to others. It stipulates waiting till 6months though and as Ciaran has shown no real interest and Im keen to wait its all good. Baby Led Weaning - Home
Ordered our amber necklaces this week, should get it tomorrow (Public Holiday today). Im hoping it will help him sleep better/longer or just be more settled at night as he is occasionally restless for a few nights in a row (wonder if its teething stuff as he is chewing on everything and anything during the day!)
Also my website is live now so im onto the task of business cards so i can get some local self promotion going. Very Exciting!
Cheers, Bree
Last edited by Breesa; August 11th, 2010 at 05:17 PM.
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. He's at my feet in case I need to give him a "bounce" to resettle him.
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I only put him in it for about 10 mins at a time now but will increase as he gets older and bigger. He still likes to sit in his swing, especially if he's tired and just needs to chill out. I face it towards the kitchen and he's happy watching me while I clean up. We have lots of great chats while I do the dishes. He's almost sitting up on his own now so I think the swing will become unnecessary soon. 
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. I am very proud of both of us as we have started the Couch 2 5K program after weeks of talking about it. Yes, it almost killed us but we hung on to the end and will be ready to go again on Wednesday (if we're not ready we will do it anyway!). 
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