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Meadsie - that is a long time to feed at his age. In saying that though, Izzy would hang off my boobs all day if I let her! She does often pull off when she's done but I can usually tell now that she's done on one side after 15 mins, 20 max. My lactation consultant told us to take her off after 20 minutes on a side when she was about 8 weeks old so maybe you should try that too. Our feeds last between 30 and 45 minutes now. I generally change her nappy before or after a feed as she doesn't nod off like she did when she was a newborn.
Ten to 15 minutes of play time is actually fine but they can also go for longer if they are happy and haven't been awake for too long. After seeing the changes in Izzy, I'm so happy with our 1.5 - 2 hour awake time schedule. It really works well. She is often quite happy playing so that's when I'll let her go closer to 2 hours but no longer. Even if she is happy, I put her to bed. It's amazing how quickly they can go from quiet and content to overtired and screaming!
I find Izzy's mobile is too much stimulation for her too so when she sleeps in her cot (only at night as she is in her hammock during the day), I don't turn the mobile on. She just ends up watching it until it stops then gets all upset because she's overtired and overstimulated!
Give it a go hon. Even if he isn't displaying many tired signs, there is a good chance he'll be ready for bed. He will probably protest at first but usually it's their tired cry/whinge and they are simply saying 'I'm tired mum so please help me go to sleep'. Izzy's whinge doesn't last long at all. I must say I do find it easier with her hammock though as I can rock/bounce her to settle her but she does just go straight down into her cot at night after a feed and cuddle in our arms.
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Hey,
Meadsie I agree with Taurean - 1.5-2hrs max. Jaida is a relatively slow feeder too. Have got her down to 40-50mins (from 1.5 hours). I then give her time in her bouncer and on the floor before putting her back to bed. Jaida gets grizzly and looks agitated when she's had enough. Jaida loves to kick and we first thought the more forceful kicks where just her discovering her legs we now know this is when she's plain fed up. Jaida does protest when we wrap her up but usually settles within 5 mins or so. She then sleeps for 40mins on the dot - 1 sleep cycle.
Jaida wont sleep from 3pm to bed time so I just keep her in her rocker and bounce harder when she looks like she is getting grumpy ;):lol:
Hope this helps
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Hi All,
Hope you and bubs are all well :D
I was just wondering whether anyone has been having any problems with their babies being 'clingy'. Emily is really bad at the moment, she just wants to be held all the time - which I understand is probably my own fault for carrying her around so much!!, but she has also started being really difficult when anyone else tries to hold her - even her Dad - she just cries when anyone else picks her up and won't stop until I take her :cry:
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get her out of this??? I am very conscious now of making sure that she spends as much 'mat time' as possible to get her more used to not being held, which is getting a bit easier now as she is starting to be more interested in toys and things to keep her occupied.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated - especially with Xmas coming up, all the relly's will want to hold her and it gets really embarrassing when she just cries whenever they pick her up :redface:
Angela
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Angela - Don't feel bad for holding your baby too much - I really don't think you can. Some babies are just like that and there is not a whole heap you can do about it - she will grow out of it eventually. Sorry that's not much help but be assured it is normal and it isn't because of anything you are doing.
Hi to everyone else.
I need to vent a frustration. DD2 has had horrible reflux and I know that it is reflux. After 2 weeks of waiting, we finally got her in to see the doctor yesterday and all I got was a very patronising 'All babies cry.' It's not just the crying (not that she is crying, she is screaming), it is the projectile vomitting, only sleeping for 20 mins at a time, making a face like she is tasting something bad all the time, losing her voice, constant discomfort, arching her back and the fact that her crying can go on for 5 to 6 hours constantly sometimes.
I hate to admit it, but I am not coping very well with any of it. I am just an emotional mess. We aren't sleeping - she cries all night and can't be put down but is really hard to hold because of the way she twists her body and goes all stiff. I just feel like I am not doing a good job with any of this at the moment - I am sooo tired and I dread weekdays when DH goes to work because I just don't know what I am going to face once he is gone. I am having way more bad days than good days at the moment too. DD1 and DS are just out of their trees because all I do all day is rock DD2 and try to get her to settle.
I am soooo sick of being told that babies cry, that's what they do. I friggin know that babies cry. I have had 2 other babies in the last 2 years and I KNOW THAT BABIES CRY!!! This is not just crying, there is something else wrong. I can't be bothered making an appointment to be seen by another doctor to be told the same thing. I am just sooo over it and feel quite alone with the whole thing.
My mum is really good and helps out. She mainly looks after the older two a bit but there is not much she can do with DD2 - she doesn't settle for my mum at all. She gets worse with anyone but DH and me. It is so exhausting because there is no break from it at all.
I am still enjoying DD2 a little bit and I am impressed with myself that I have been increibly patient with her and haven't lost it. I think I am taking it out on DD2 and DS though. I am really snappy with them and they are both just pushing the limits constantly because I am so distracted. I can't wait for this stage to be over.
I have been giving DD2 gaviscon infant and told the doctor yesterday and he said just to keep going with that and he didn't want to prescribe anything else. It worked well for the first couple of days and now we are back to where we were a couple of weeks ago.
Anyway, sorry to be such a dark cloud but I just needed to get that out.
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Crashing your thread again!
Just Me - get a referral to a paediatrician. You will get so much more support from someone who works with children all the time. My GP was very understanding but it took two appointments before she would medicate DD for silent reflux and even then she was hesitant and doubted it was reflux. I didn't bother returning to see her about it again, I just took DD to her paediatrician (the one who'd seen her in hossi - we were private) and he recognised the symptoms straight away and put her on Losec immediately and we haven't looked back since.
Hopefuly you will get the support and someone to actually listen to you. You know your baby better than anyone and you know when something isn't right. Keep persevering hon and get the medication. I have no doubt it will make a world of difference.
Thinking of you :hug:
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Hey,
AngelaK I am having a similar issue with Jaida at the moment except I have an issue when anyone Jaida doesn't know very well comes close to her even to just say hello, she bursts into tears. Its like she has just gotten really frightened and I agree it can be a little embarrassing. My friends just want to play with her and give her a hug but she wont have a bar of it. This is also one of the only times she really cries so when I tell people what a good baby she is I am sure they dont believe me as all she does is cry around them.:rolleyes: I found this got better after they had been around her for quite awhile.Even her father had to reaquaint with her over a day after being away for 2 nights. If you find the answer please let me know.
Just Me - just wanted to give you big hugs. Keep persisting with the docs as Taurean suggests.
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Thanks Taurean - just checking - do I have to get a referral from a doctor to see a pediatrician?
I think I forgot to mention before that the doctor weighed DD2 as well and wants to see us again in 2 weeks because she has only put on 1kg since she was born. She has dropped from the 90th percentile to below the 25th percetile (though is still 75th percentile for height). He was a bit worried about her weight gain but said that because she was such a big baby when she was born that might explain her weight loss. I am a bit dubious - I don't think she should be dropping percentiles like that. I haven't weighed her very much so I don't know if she is losing weight. Honestly, it feels like DD1 all over again. DS weighed 750g more than DD2 at the same age though his height and HC were exactly the same as her. DD1 weighed less with the same height and HC again but we did all her weights as bare weights and DD2 has been weighed with all her clothes on.
Anyway, I will try and get a referral from the doctor when we see him again in 2 weeks.
I got a 2 and a half hour nap this afternoon and am feeling so much better. DH and I both think we may be coming down with something. We are both feeling less than average which may explain my mood and the kids' moods this week. They are whingy and miserable - exactly how I feel. My glands are swollen at the moment as are DH's and the kids have a temp this afternoon so I think we are sick again!!! We have had two playdates in the last week and a half. The first one ended because my friends' little boy got a temp of 38.5 while they were visiting and the one we were meant to have this morning didn't happen because the little girl coming to visit woke up with a temp this morning. I am soooooooooo sick of us all being sick! It has literally been every second week since May and I am exhausted from it.
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JM - sorry, I should have explained myself better! You need a referral from a GP to see a paediatrician if you want to claim it back from Medicare. We had a 3 month referral period from DD's birth date with her paediatrician - we were private patients. As she is now 3 months old, we need to get a referral to go back to see him again so we can continue to claim back from Medicare.
I'm not sure if that's the process Australia wide but I'd assume so. Give a paediatrician a call and see what they have to say. Sing out if you have any questions hon xx
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JM - Angus had horrible reflux and screamed for 7 hrs each night. We found that he was easily overstimulated, so rocking etc just made his reflux worse and meant he couldn't settle or sleep while being held. We put the head of the cot up too, quite a bit, and that also helped. The overstimulation/rocking thing was a huge bit for us, once we stopped 'trying' so hard to settle him with rocking he calmed down a lot. It's hard to be the parent of a baby who cries, and everyone gives you advice, 99% of which doesn't work for your baby. I felt useless for ages, and then when I discovered he settled better when not being held or rocked, people would look at me weirdly because I hardly ever held him after being fed. You can't win sometimes!!
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Hello ladies... it is hard to believe that your babies will be turning 3 months old soon!! Very exciting!
I have been reading but not posting much - my bad.
I like to read how you are all going as well as the bubs.
DD is doing great. She is 4 months old and just amazing - not much to report really.
Is everyone looking forward to the silly season?
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Heya all just poping in to say hi..... I can't believe my little man is already 3 months old. He's a happy chubby long (little) boy who is happy to be fed and left alone. He's a refluxy baby too, and letting him self-settle works best for him. Of course if he is screaming uncontrollably we will give him a cuddle.
He smiles when you go into his room and peer into his cot once he has woken up. Kicks his arms and legs about as if to say - well, come on, I'm here pick me up it's time to play...... I love him to bits.
He's almost 7kgs and 68cm long so we've got a basketballer in the making over here. IT was a little sad to put all my 000 on ebay recently as this is our last bubba and he's growing up way to quick.
anyway, enough of me - hope all is well for all. I have been reading all the posts. To all those who are sick, I hope you feel better soon. To all those with unsettled bubbas, I hope they settle soon.
And to everyone of your lovely ladies, Have a safe and Happy Christmas Season if I don't get on here in the next couple of days.
Leanne
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Hi everyone :)
Just curious... is anyone else baby rolling yet? Anelise perfected the belly to back roll about 2 weeks ago and last night rolled from back to belly. It is frustrating because she now rolls over in bed which just adds to my ever rising anxiety levels!
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nope no rolling here Lisa, and Master Joshua HATES tummy time. Probably cause whenever I put him on his belly he spews from reflux and it's gotta burn his poor throat...
Boy our children are growing up fast.
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Caitlin is kind of rolling... but not rolling over - she can roll from back to side and from tummy to sort of side but she doesn't get all the way over :( I am not worried about it but it is frustrating for me because I can see that she gets frustrated but I want her to 'get' it on her own. LOL I never realised how much I took over when people couldn't do things :redface: but it is teaching me to take a step back and allow Caitlin to discover things for herself.
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Hi All
No rolling here either. DD2 is barely holding up her head. She hates tummy time due to reflux as well. She screams and screams and screams when we put her down so we mostly just carry her around in an upright position. She gets very little practice at tummy time. I am trying to make sure she does it once a day but some days that is a real struggle.
We went Christmas light looking last night. DD2 HATES the car with a passion and did not stop screaming for the entire hour and a half. It's hard because I feel like our other kids miss out on stuff so much because we have a screaming baby and I didn't want them to miss out on Christmas light looking with my family just because DD2 hates the car. So we just left her to cry and she did not let up. We gave up and went home. She fell asleep the second we took her out of the car and slept until 6am this morning (she went 12 hours without a feed). We have a capsule which she will sleep in but wakes up the second we put it in the car. It is definitely the car she hates.
We are busily getting ready for Christmas. I can't wait! DH has a little over 2 weeks off which is nice. I plan on toilet training DD1 and DS. We have been TT DD1 for about 12 months now and she is just not interested - now that DH will be home for a couple of weeks DD1 is going into undies and she WILL be toilet trained! DS has started TT in the last couple of days and has managed a couple of wees on the toilet - I think he will be TT before DD1 at this point. We also plan on starting DD2 on a sleep program over those 2 weeks so she should be self settling by the time DH goes back to work. We aren't planning to go anywhere, just have 2 weeks at home to get some things sorted that we need to and set up a good routine ready for him to go back to work.
Anyway, hope everyone's christmas plans are coming along. Only 7 days to go!!!
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Nope no rolling though I guess we've been concentrating on getting feeding right with all the problems we had to spend much time working on this.
Have any of you done anything in particular to develop the ability?
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I think Anelise just taught herself to roll because she too hates tummy time, so she learned to roll off her belly onto her back. Now she doesn't mind tummy time so much because she knows she can end it when she wants to, I guess.
Meadsie, the only thing I am doing differently is making sure she has loads of floor time. We did this with Harrison also and he rolled about the same time, sat at 4 months and crawled at 6 months.
Justme - I have a Ebook think (I think that's what they're called) on how to TT your child in 3 days. I have heard really good things about it but it is very full on... like you need to have someone with the child/children every second. It could work if your DH was to do the TT or take over from bub. If you're interested just PM me with your email address and I will send it through to you.
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Hi Lisa - thanks for that.
Looks like we will be able to work on rolling quite a bit next week as tummy time has now become much more interesting as we are really holding our head up when on our tummy in the last 10 days or so which means he doesn't seem to mind being there as he looks round. Before this he would just lift his head slightly but now its head and shoulders. I'm practising showing him how to roll both onto his back and from back to tummy so we will see what happens. will be interesting to see if increased time on floor will work for us too.
Meadsie
