Yeah, be kind to yourself. I am trying to be kind to myself about the weight but it's hard.
I lost about 10 kgs the week after the birth, which made me think I'd be back to my normal self in no time. But then I hit a few complications and won a year's supply of Tim Tams. I really tried hard not to eat the Tim Tams but ... geez they are addictive.
Then came rumball season (Christmas). I started gaining instead of losing.
Four and a half months after the birth I can fit into some of my pre-pregnancy clothes but I don't look the same. Amazingly, I don't have the sagginess that others complain of - Maybe that will come when I lose a bit more - but things are definitely different.
Anyway -- good luck. Healthy eating and gentle exercise are what I've been planning to do since day one... but my good intentions have remained only that.