Husband concerned about my possible pregnancy weight gain

[Rinnie]

Hi all i am not sure where to ask this ( so moderators feel free to move it ) I have a question. DH and I have been thinking about having a second child I am booked in to the docs in 2 weeks to get the implanon removed, But DH has turned to me and told me that he is concerned about my weight, I am 74.2 kg at 5ft 2 inch high. He doesnt want me getting bigger after a second child. does any one find that they did put more weight on with a second pregnancy????? and should i lose some weight before falling pregnant?

[nickle730]

I put on less weight with my second pg, a little more with my third. I am a healthy weight, about 5ft5in and around 70kgs. Doesn't sound to me like you are an unhealthy weight! Is your DH concerned about your health or your appearance?

If my DH expressed a negative opinion about my weight I would kick him in the shins!! No chance of another pg as there's no way he'd be getting any sex...

[LizLemon]

I have put on about five kilos more with my second pregnancy, and I was actually a few kilos lighter at the beginning than I was with my first preg. But my extra weight is from being a stay at home mum with a frustrating toddler and "medicating" myself with chocolate whereas with the first preg I was at work and far less stressed!

From a health point of view if you are unhealthy (but it doesnt sound like you are) now then maybe losing a little bit of weight before getting pregnant might make things easier and may avoid complications, but I agree with Nickle if it's from an appearance POV kick him in the shins!

[NaeNae]

I have actually lost weight during this pregnancy and am down to a weight lower than I started with DD. I'd slap hubby if he said that to me though all things considered we didn't have any luck conceiving before I got down a few kilos anyway (could have also been a coincidence).
Tell him not to be so rude!

Nae x

[Rinnie]

thanks gals, i did feel a little on the rejected and offended side when he said that to me but I didnt know what to think of it, i thought it was because he knows i have massive insecurity problems with my body and was just bing caring in a way so i didnt get more insecure after a 2nd child

[[M]umma[M]ia]

Your weight is fine. The best way for your DH to make you feel better about your weight is to tell you that you are perfect and you dont need to change a thing. I mean.... has him telling you that made you feel any better about yourself? Good luck with everything.