confused!!!

[sharon]

hi everyone,
im new to this site and i hope u can help me a tiny bit.. i am very confused atfer reading some of your messages, i had a misscarriage in december 07, i was 6 weeks pregnant and the doctor said there was no need for d/c as i would pass it myself.
after finding out in june this year that i was pregnant again i was over the moon. i had been going to my doctors and telling them that i had lower back pain and that my morning sickness had stopped and i asked would there be anything wrong in my pregnancy, i was told no.. this went on for 3 weeks, i was given antibiotics for a kidney infection, it didnt seem to go away so i went back to my doctors and told him i didnt feel right, again i was told there was nothing to worry about as my breasts were getting bigger and my belly was also gettin bigger, i had to insist on being sent for a scan as i was still worried as i think that many of us women know our own bodies and can sense when something is wrong even when the doctors think we worry too much!!
When my partner and i eventually got sent for the scan, and after 3 different doctors looking at the scan i was told that the baby had died and that i sufferd a missed misscarriage, i wasnt bleeding at all and was so confused.. they sent me home and told me to come bk within the week if i wanted a d/c.. i was heart broken. I decided it was best to go into hospital the next morning rather than prolonging my agony.. when i went into hospital i asked for another doctor to do a scan so as they were 100% sure. When they done the scan i was then told it was a blighted ovum.. so u can imagine why i am so confused now after reading you letters from other women and seeing that they are saying that the two losses are not the same.. i was 11 weeks pregnant and after my d/c i was told that there would be a funeral for my product of conception (doctors words not mine).. so i am so confused as wether there was a baby or not..
please put my mind at rest before i prepare for my little lost ones funeral

[~Saram~]

Sharon - I'm so sorry for your losses and for the added distress these dr's have caused you! I'm not 100% sure but I'm am sure that the other ladies here will be able to help with some understandings.

[DoubleK]

Hi Sharon, im so sorry to hear about your loss, i had a miscarriage myself in March, but i dont know alot about them, and id hate to offer you incorrect information.

when i had my miscarriage, i was really unimpressed with the hospital and how they handled everything, my mum suggested i call nurse on call, i did and i spoke to a beautiful lady who answered all my questions, they keep everything on file, so that if you need to call back, you dont need to repeat yourself (like i did about 8 times to 8 different people at the hossy.) maybe you could give them a call and see how that helps.

take care hun

[~ Mylitta ~]

Hi Sharon, I am so sorry for your loss.

I found out that my baby had not made it at my ultrasound at 8w1d. My obstetrician told me that he could not say with certainty whether it was a blighted ovum or a missed miscarriage. I asked him to explain it to me and he was fantastic. This is basically what he told me:

A blighted ovum is when the cells that make up the pregnancy sac and the placenta are fine. They divide properly and create the prgnancy sac and placenta which then starts growing and making all the right hormones (that's why your uterus expands and you can get morning sickness). The cells that are meant to form the baby though have something wrong with them (my obs said it's usually a chromosome problem) and the cells don't divide and the baby doesn't form. That doesn't mean that there was never a baby though. The small number of cells still held all the dna that makes a person, so it was definitely still a baby, no matter how small.

A missed miscarriage is where the pregnancy sac, placenta and the baby all start to form, but at some time the baby passes away. If this happens further into the pregnancy, or not long before the ultrasound, the baby can usually be seen on the scan. But because the baby starts to shrink after is passes away, at the same rate that it would have been growing, then if it has been a while since the baby passed away before you got the scan, then the baby might have shrunk to a size that they can't see on the scan. I hope that makes sense... Basically, although it was a missed miscarriage, it could look like a blighted ovum.

Either case is just as devastating for us though

I've found that a lot of people don't understand what a blighted ovum is, and now if I have to talk to someone about what happened, I generally just refer to it as a miscarriage because people seem to understand better.

I also had a d&c, but was never offered a funeral.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss

[Aphrael]

I'm glad you have some good news, I'm so sorry for your loss tho Sharon.

Cheers,

Beck

[sharon]

Thank u Beck!! xx

[sharon]

hi kryste,
Thank you for taking the time to read my mail and most of all for repling to me.Ive read your reply and found it very helpful. So fingers crossed for the next time as ive heard that most women go on to have a good pregnancy after any kind of miscrriage.. i also have a 9 year old little girl so im very blessed already.. thanks again
sharon. xx

[PamyK]

Hi Sharon, I am so sorry for your loss.

I found out that my baby had not made it at my ultrasound at 8w1d. My obstetrician told me that he could not say with certainty whether it was a blighted ovum or a missed miscarriage. I asked him to explain it to me and he was fantastic. This is basically what he told me:

A blighted ovum is when the cells that make up the pregnancy sac and the placenta are fine. They divide properly and create the prgnancy sac and placenta which then starts growing and making all the right hormones (that's why your uterus expands and you can get morning sickness). The cells that are meant to form the baby though have something wrong with them (my obs said it's usually a chromosome problem) and the cells don't divide and the baby doesn't form. That doesn't mean that there was never a baby though. The small number of cells still held all the dna that makes a person, so it was definitely still a baby, no matter how small.

A missed miscarriage is where the pregnancy sac, placenta and the baby all start to form, but at some time the baby passes away. If this happens further into the pregnancy, or not long before the ultrasound, the baby can usually be seen on the scan. But because the baby starts to shrink after is passes away, at the same rate that it would have been growing, then if it has been a while since the baby passed away before you got the scan, then the baby might have shrunk to a size that they can't see on the scan. I hope that makes sense... Basically, although it was a missed miscarriage, it could look like a blighted ovum.

Either case is just as devastating for us though

I've found that a lot of people don't understand what a blighted ovum is, and now if I have to talk to someone about what happened, I generally just refer to it as a miscarriage because people seem to understand better.

I also had a d&c, but was never offered a funeral.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss

I'm thankful for your explanation krystielove - I was givng the choice of missed miscarriage or bloated ovum - I was under the belief when they mentioned a bloated ovum to me, it was an egg that got confused and and decided to implant itself without being fertilised - they didn't explain anything to me, and only took notice of my issues when I heamorraged everywhere (I'll do anything for attention really). I get so frustrated when Dr's don't listen to you when you know something isn't right and they think you are just a panicer - well maybe if they listend to us more, they may not have so many patients with complications - I mean who knows our bodies better than us???

[sharon]

thanku for replying to my message.. i did what u suggested and i got good answers today from someone at the hospital.. thanks again
sharon..xxx

[sharon]

thanku for taking the time to read my email.. i read the other replies and they were of help to me..
thanks again
sharon..xxx