Ectopic pregnancy and loss

[Possums]

Hi everyone. My thoughts and wishes to all of you who have experienced a loss. I just have too. Two weeks ago I had surgery to remove an ectopic pregnancy. I lost my right tube, discovered my left tube is badly damaged and my Dr recommended we go now to IVF, given that I turn 35 in a few months. It was a huge shock. I had just started coming to terms with thinking I had miscarried at 9 weeks, after a couple of weeks of not knowing whether I was going to keep the baby or not. I had to have a D&C and that revealed no placental material, which meant I was sent back in for more tests as they suspected an ectopic pregnancy. My emotional rollercoaster continued. Then the surgery etc. I felt so devastated and now two weeks on, I am in a better state and healing physically, but still very raw and up and down. I am sometimes sad, sometimes angry, sometimes still shocked, sometimes confused. I feel alone a lot, like others don't understand and returning to work has been a challenge. This site is a really big help. Just connecting with others who really do understand! I just posted in the LTTC/AC section too and the support straight away has been so great.
My husband and I are now trying to be positive and focus on the next step for us. But I know this will take time. Anyway....I just wanted to share on here.

[~Trish~]

Hi Possums, I am so sorry to hear of your recent loss . It must have been a terrifying and sad time for you. I am sure you will find BB to be a very supportive place to be.

I wish you all the very best in your new TTC chapter.

[Spring Angel]

Possums: Wow, you have had a lot of news to take in and understand. No wonder you feel in a state of shock. You have come to the right place. Take care sweetie :hugs:

Lv Spring

[Canary]

Hi Possums,
I am sorry for what you have been through, it must be really tough. There are always plenty of supportive people here willing to listen and give advce. I hope that you find the support that you need here. Take care.:hugs:

[Ellie]

I'm so sorry for your loss...the grief you are feeling for the loss of your baby and the grief of being confronted with IVF is huge...be kind to yourself and know you're no alone...we're all here for you xxx

[Possums]

Thanks everyone for your really kind words. It's nice knowing you are out there.

[Dragie89]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss

I've just been through similar, was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy last week (good friday ) and since then it's been pretty horrible.
They had to decide whether to opt for surgery or methotrexate.

In the end, they went with the medical option and I was given a shot of methotrexate.

To my surprise, it worked quite quickly and right now my levels have dropped quite substantially.

It's still taking some getting used to but I'm glad it could soon be all over and I could get some time back to deal with all of this.

[jen805]

Dragie89--I'm truly sorry for your loss! While nothing will make you feel better right now, it's amazing how these women can quickly make you feel like you're part of their family. I'm pretty new to this site, and I can't tell you in words how much it has helped me to have the ability to talk to these women who are feeling the same pain that I am right now. Even when they aren't feeling that positive about their own situation, everyone's always very positive towards you and your situation. It helps so much that they know exactly what you're saying, even when you don't or can't put it into words. I hope your stay here is brief! Be kind to yourself right now and give yourself the time it takes to heal. We're all there with you!