Hey Hun,

Firstly I want to say how sorry I am for your loss...

I know EXACTLY what you mean... My DH was at work when I started to bleed, I had been cramping for about 4 hours before hand. I rang and told DH I was cramping and that he had to stay close by to home (He is a cop). He rang me back and I could hear him smoking (hasn't smoked since we started TTC). He told me he was really stressed due to cramping.

About half an hour later I started to bleed, I rang him and cried into the phone. He was home in 5 mins...

When he took me to the hospital (I was having really bad pain) it was weird. He wasn't talking, looking at me... he just looked uncomfortable...

I think that at first he felt shocked to see me in such a state (I don't usually cry), and in pain and I looked pale and just crap... He hated seeing me like that.. He was sad, it was his baby too...

I think thats why he was like that at first, lets face it boys are not very good at expressing themselves. We had some time off work together and got to really nut out how we were feeling (not all in one sitting, but over a few days).

I think it's easy to forget that they feel it too... esp. since they don't have to go thru the physical pain... and everyone handles grief differently.

Now we talk openly about it, I have been having some bad days which is why I am looking at these threads which is helping.

How are things going now are they any better???