I had my 12 week scan at 9.30am on Saturday i was so excited, my last scan at 6 weeks and 4 days showed a healthy heart beat, i was looking forward to seeing my baby only to discover its heart beat had stopped and it had passed away although it is stil inside me, I am booked in for a d and c on Tuesday. Im so devestated and although i have a very supportive partner i feel lost and alone. Has anyone been through a similar situation?
Hello and sorry for your loss there are many women here who have been through the same thing, I have also had a miscarriage but did not need a D & c because my baby passed on it's own ... there is a trying to conceive after miscarriage and loss sub forum here where you will find lots of helpful and caring women ...
I lost my second pregnancy at the 12 week NT scan in 2004 and it was devistating! That was my second m/c and I was gutted. Everyone was lovely to me during the d&c and finally I was sent to a Gyno who discovered I had PCOS, not long after him I fell pg with my first daughter.
Its a long hard road this ttc'ing but in the end, when you meet your baby its really all worth it.
I really hope you find peace with yourself and your angel baby, you will never forget him/her and I hope your journey to motherhood is a short one.
hi mikki, so sorry hun, I had a missed miscarriage a year ago this week, we found out at our first ultrasound that our bub didnt make it past 4-5 wks.
its such a heartbreaking thing to have to live thru, but here was where I found the best suppost, so you have definately come to the right place.
In the last year 3 of my friends haveall hadthesame experience as you, my heart breaks for you and them and anyone who has to go through it.
keep talking hun, let yourself grieve for your lost angel.
thinking of you,
xxx
Mikki - so sorry to hear of your sad news. Its devastating for you and all concerned.
I had a late miscarriage a year ago this past week. It was at the 18 wk morphology scan that I was faced with the horror of seeing my baby dead on the screen. I hadn't had any previous scans and this was to be the first time I would see him. I had felt movement for many weeks and it was only a few days since I had felt definite movement so it was a huge shock to see the stillness on the monitor. After the news sank in, I just wanted my baby out of me. It sounds harsh but I couldn't stand the thought that he was inside me dead for several days. I had to have labour induced and he came the following morning. Fortunately, I didn't have to wait too long to have everything taken care of, it was all the same day. I can't imagine how you are feeling having to wait. I had a D & C following his birth because of retained placenta or 'product' (its what the medicos call it, so very cold!!) and I was bleeding too heavily. It took 5 weeks before my cycles recommenced so don't be too alarmed if its the same with you.
I found this site so very helpful with dealing with my grief and anxieties since the miscarriage and I'm sure you will too. There are some things that aren't easily said to those we love most (partners in particular) but can say to strangers online. I hope you find the comfort you are seeking as its a hard journey, just knowing you are not alone was a godsend to me as I'm sure it will be for you too. Hugs to you and your partner.
I had a missed miscarriage at 10.5 weeks in April. Like you, I found out at my first OB appointment after seeing a healthy heartbeat at 7 weeks. I was also alone at the time and it was awful. My d&C was sensitively handled although it was very emotional...I was very teary. I recovered well though and got my AF 4 weeks later and as you can see by my ticker I am now nearly 9 weeks pregnant again.....Its awful and you will feel pangs (even now I do, as I would be almost in the third trimester now) but with love and support you will get through it...and there is plenty here to be had!
Hi Mikki,
Im so sorry that this is happening to you
Lots of us have been through the same sort of thing. I know that doesnt help at all, and I know that when people start going on about it being common it wont help at all, but just know that were all here for you if you need to talk.
I had a mc on the 31st July, I had the same sort of thing as you - I was meant to be about 9 weeks at my ultrasound, but the baby had stopped developing at 5 weeks 6 days.
My body didnt realise this however, and so I was booked for a dc, but It ended up happening naturally the night before I was booked for the dc.
I can empathise with your feelings of being lost and alone, and I too have a very supportive partner, but I think its just hard for them to understand the intense emotions that come with a mc, and sometimes its just too hard to talk to someone face to face about it.
Just know that you arent alone, not at all, and although we are all only online we are all here for you.
Danielle
mikki - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too have had a missed miscarriage and found it devastating. Just looking up at that screen thinking that there had to be a mistake with the equipment. It's a very difficult time, don't rush yourself through grief. I too had a d&c as I just felt it would help me progress through the grieving process, rather than wait the days or possibly weeks before my body would realise that bub had flown onto heaven.
I hope you have some good supportive friends or family around you. The ladies in here are wonderful though and I found it really really helped to speak to people who knew exactly what I was going through.
You will always hold a very special place in your heart for your angel bub.
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