Adoption - Just want to find out more..

[The_Source]

Hi there! I posted this to the 'intro' thread but got no response so I thought I'd post here.

We have three boys of our own. I was diagnosed with secondary fertility issues after our second (and then managed to fall pregnant two months later ) but with no natural luck since. Personally, I don't want to go down the whole full picture cycle monitoring thing again and the whole OI thing just takes the joy out of the more intimate aspects of our marriage, which is no good for TTC, or my overall mood and attitude towards life.

So, I am just wanting to find out more about international adoption as the topic has come up between DH & I and we concluded that the only thing we really knew was that, in DH's words, 'It is great for celebrities because they can have children without going through the joy and tears of pregnancy and labor'.

So, we have not clue, and just curious at this stage to find out more before making a serious decision. We love our boys to bits and would love to be able to add to our family. We home school our eldest so the whole 'go back to work to afford AC' thing is not an option either.

So, in light of all this, can anyone point me in the right direction to find out more about what's involved in terms of differences with countries (have no idea there), paperwork, the process and so forth? And do do you go about it all? Also, I am just wondering how emotionally taxing the process is?

Please no suggestions of Foster Care - the answer is no.

Thanks in advance to those who pull out their virtual pointer finger!

[HotI]

Hi Kris

The first place to go for info would be SA Dept for families & communities. They have info on adoption (both local and international)

Adoption, DFC South Australia

International adoption can be quite costly as well, so check that part out if cost is an issue.

cheers,

kate

[M7Missy]

Try the attonery general's web page as they now list all the countries there.

It will cost you at least 15grand paid over a period of the entire adoption, many will be more some closer to $25,000 and others over $35,000

My B/F is adopting from China - she is about 3 years into about an 8 year wait.
(We don't talk about it a lot - she likes to talk about other stuff)

She says even the 'good' adoption states like SA and NSW it will take most likely about 3 years due to the fact that Australia only has limited programs and there is such a high number of people being processed.

[The_Source]

Sorry I have not had the chance to say thanks for the information until now. So, thank you!

@Kate07 - thanks for the link.

@M7Missy - I think I would be somewhat like your friend. I am not sure how I would deal with the whole process.

In SA there are limited 'info sessions' in a year so I guess we will be waiting for one to come up that is not on when my husband is away.

Thanks again,

[Mildez]

I don't know much but my sister was looking into it last year. She is not married and alot of the countries won't take applications if you were not married. Certain countries would except different things. One of the Countries that my sister was looking at your youngest child (adopted or biological) had to be over the age of 3 or 5 (can't remember) and alot would not except applications if you had more then 1 or 2 biological or adoptive children. Some you had to be married over 5years and then there was the housing and financial side of things. All this was after you had being approved by DOCS (department of community services) before you could go into the next stage. Its a long and difficult process from what I have seem/heard and takes along time. Definately worth it though in the end. Good Luck definately something to look into further. I would love to adopt but my husband doesn't want to but I am interested about the process of adoption.

[satya]

There's also age restrictions in some countries - so neither parent can be so many years older than the child they are adopting.

[rubibaby]

i have to say i had no idea it would take that long...dh and i spoke very briefly about adoption the other day. as i would like a third child, but dh believes there are enough people in the world and that adoption is an option...mmm...i guess i would need to make a decision very soon...sorry for jumping on board your link...all the best with whatever you decide...