Kazz
We are lucky ones actually - can't imagine what our life would be like without him.

This is story about lady I met after we adopted DS - her DD had same foster mum as my DS - but she was tiny baby there before my DS.

My DS though same age was fostered later. Lady got in contact with us when she found out about us and we lived close 'ish'.They had a bit of a support group and she was kind of keeping numbers up.

Then by coincidence she moved next door to one of my best friends (school 25yr friendship) a few years ago so she still knew where we were -and when we visited friend (not being mean but other difficult issues I didn't want to be involved with)

She visited me at work today. I know my friend must not have told her about ~Charlotte~ and today I didn't either - since it didn't come up!
I feel guilty but she is just not the person I wanted to disclose too at my work.

I thought my friend might have told her when I was pregnant but maybe not :smt102 - she tries to avoid her too I think. If Lady had of known she would have said something. She is nice person .

Today she said her adopted DD is one of many children (over 10) adopted and 2 babies stillborn -can you imagine one mother having this many babies by choice and adopting them all -eldest is 24 youngest about 7.

She said elder girls are trying to put whole family in touch - they had a family reunion a few yrs ago.

My DS is apparently last of many children too - but I doubt if they will all meet up.

Just on cost someone in another post wrote 10 years ago it cost us $5000 or slightly more - but they declare a lot of it as counselling etc. parenting course fees and court document lodgement costs - solicitor too.