yeah,
i think that the only reason i will be able to is because i dont have a clue where he is. And he has not had anything to do with Nicole in years. even then it is still at the discretion of the magistrate. Im not sure it will be different on her birth certificate, i think she will just be issued a change of name thingy.......but i really dont have much of a clue.
If the magistrate says no, ill try and convince him to sign over his rights, then failing that i will just use our new name unofficially. Sounds like a plan to me. But its still almost a year before any of this will actually happen, cos i have to get married first. So ive got a while to work it all out, find my best option.
Actually, in my darkest moments, i considered offering to make his outstanding and future child support responsibilities go away (to my own financial hardship0. Im relieved i wont have to stoop to that level.
Thanks again everyone for the suggestions and info, the mud is settling and its al looking much clearer now.
I changed my name to Mums maiden name whenI was younger. We never had to get anything from my dad to let us do it, he is on my birth certificate. I changed what I went by at school when I was about 13 & then when I was 16 I changed it legally. My birth certificate now has my mums maiden name as my name from birth.
All we did was take in a letter from the school saying this is what I have been known by. Plus fill out the forms & pay the fee. Done.
yeah, i read something like that in the legal tomes i was trawling. im not sure exactly what the age is that you can do it, but the way to change your name as an adult is to make yourself commonly known and recognised by that name. I was thinking how the hell do you do that? just ask everyone to call you something different from now on??
Apparently, yes, thats exactly what you do.
So what about people with nicknames more common than their actual names? Should they legally be "fred" or "****" or whatever? It was really confusing.
If you can prove you don't know where the father is and that its in your DDs best interest to have the same surname as you then you can go through the Chamber magistrate at your local courthouse. You will have to go to court but its very quick and doesn't cost anything in the actual court.
PM me if you have questions cause i have done it but don't want to discuss here.
ok. So I has a similar issue when I was younger.
Mum divorced when i was 3 Bio. dad had nothing to do with me.
Mum remarried I took on step dads name. I has everything - medicare, passport, tax, bank records, school records etc in my stepdads name since i was about 8. It took allot of paperwork to get my passport etc as I had to prove I had no contact with my bio dad. There is no way that he would sign over any rights to my step dad.
I went through the process of proving that I have no contact with him, that no one knows me in this name (stat decs, letters of acknodlgement etc) to get it changed.
If you can prove this and if need be to go through the court to prove this, i can't see any issues.
Got it all done now (though through my laziness it took me till i was 22) and name was changed.
I looked into doing this for my eldest DD when I married even before that to my name. I was 17 when I had her and thought we would be together forever (stupid I know) well I enquired about it and they said that I needed his signature (which he refused) despite having $30,000 of maintanence owing to me they said the only way I could change her name was to fight it through court (which was starting around $10,000) and I wasn't even guaranteed to win the argument despite him not seeing her for years. I have let it go and pray she will change her own name when she is older. She hates the fact her name is her bio fathers on her birth certificate. I am fortunate that her name is the same as my maiden name on our mediacre card so at least her medical records are not the bo-fathers and I was able to enrol her in school as my maiden name (the name she has known from the start) I can't cxhange her name legally to my husbands and our other daughter. Despite the fact her name is different on her birth certificate at least I was able to enrol her in school under my maiden name and the name on her medicare card.
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