Contact with birth families.

[Princess Swan]

I have a life book for my daughter. With pictures of them in it. She'll know about them gradually and grow up knowing she's adopted. I thought hiding adoption and information from your children was long gone.

Its more the other kids that I get a bit concerned about. Since we have to be very careful of the subject.

How do birth parents tell older siblings about children that they didn't bring home?

The parents didn't seem to know that its a good idea to tell them. But then I guess its their own folly if they don't tell them and it slips out during a visit.

Thanks for answering!!

[HotI]

what are the other kids told now? who do they think is the little one they visit?

If the oldest is now 7, and has younger siblings living with her, she might remember her Mum being pregnant and no baby coming home and may have worked out that your little one is her sibling. Kids are sometimes cluey than they are given credit for.

I was thinking that the other kids might benefit from books on adoption, as a way for their parents to explain to them (if they want to).

My Mum made the 'life book' for my sister 25 years ago. They are used widely now, but back then were not advocated or even talked about. Don't know if hers was the first, but Mum just came up with the idea herself.

I thought hiding adoption and information from your children was long gone.

unfortunately, not always. It depends on the family, and the tools they have to explain things that aren't so common.