Thanks everyone for your replies,
Shantelle, I would love for my kids to grow up with your perspective. Thank you. I'd also love to hear more! Kate, we always have one parent at home but DH will work one night a week (Sunday) and sleeps on Monday. We will put DS into childcare Monday's and would feel strange if we sent my baby to daycare (for 5-6 hours) and kept another baby at home. Thats why I asked, All other times there is someone home. DD goes 2 days a week simply because she loves it and gets so much out of it
In terms of other ages I have read a few things recommending to get children younger than your oldest, and i feel like we're not really set up for older kids (also I feel like my children teach me how to parent...not really surewhat to do for older kids yet..though I'm sure I'd work it out.)
Thanks for your input, I am going to start the paperwork and have lots to think about
Would love to hear how peoples extended family react. I think ours might shake their head...in a "Don't you have enough on your plate" type way.
Thanks again