I wanted to get other people's opinion on a question I have that relates to adoption. When my elder sister was 20 years old, she gave birth to a baby girl. The Father of her baby wanted nothing to do with her or the child and wasn't willing to support them. She gave birth prematurely and nearly died in the process (blood loss). After the birth, she became depressed and decided to give the child up for adoption. I personally think that the staff at the hospital pressured her into this, even though it was originally her idea. A few months after her daughter had been adopted, my sister began to have major regrets about what she gad done, although by this time it was too late to get her daughter back. My sister tried to commit suicide on her daughter's first birthday and she blames the adoptive parents for being selfish and stealing her child when she changed her mind about the adoption. When her daughter was 2, my sister married and had another child (a boy) and although this time she was married & had support, it was all too much for her to bear because it brought memories of her daughter back & she was reminded of how much she was missing out on. So she up and left her Husband and her son and hasn't been back to see them since (and this was 8 years ago). Since then, she has remarried and has 4 more children and although she has stayed this time, she is very cold and distant with them. It's like she never wanted them and has absolutely no connection with them at all. She shows them no affection whatsoever and half the time she is in such a depressed mood that she locks her bedroom door and won't speak to them. She treats them as the enemy. She tells me that it is because she will never ever get over the loss of her first child and she hates the adoptive parents for ruining her life. Is this kind of grief in adoption the norm? Thanks for listening.