CelticMoon,

I think your question was legitmate and blondeangel has already said that she wasn't offended. I can't reinstate your original post but wanted to say that, as with every journey, you start by fumbling your way through, and you learn and grow into the journey as time passes. You may not kow the right words right now, but with the perspective of others, you will soon.

Good luck with your plans to adopt/undertake permanent care and I hope your dreams come true.