That makes sense. I'm looking at her being our child because it is a specific child we're going through this for, not a random child. This little girl will be in our care until she's 18 if we get her.

I'm trying to use this forum for knowledge, so I'm not ringing the case worker every day. I thought it would be better to get SOME information, like Smoke Jaguar's advice on the Learning Stones program, and then I can do my own research and appear somewhat intelligent, rather than waiting for them to spoon feed me.

And no, I don't think I've been too harsh on the people I don't agree with. I don't understand what's so difficult about this - the people qualified to comment on my mental state have done so, DCP are now looking into the rest of my background; all I'm looking for here is ideas on how to incorporate Aboriginal culture into our everyday lives from people in a similar situation. And it's not that I disagree with you, those are issues I have already considered; they just aren't relevant to this thread. As always though, thanks for your input.