Sorry I can't help with all the Q's, the only one I can help with is that yes Curtin does have a long day care centre, yes it is a fantastic centre (imho) and even if you just *think* you might/possibly need care, put DD's name on the waiting list now, as it's hard to get into. However staff and students get preference over community families, and her being nearby on campus will be much more comforting for both of you. It's better to be offered a position and not need it, then need it and not have it iykwim.

Most full time courses nowadays aren't generally 5 days either, so you may be able to work your timetable to fill a few days a week, so you won't need to put her in full time care (if you choose that option). I personally don't think it's too young for a few days a week, others will, but you really just have to see how it goes for you two - some chn respond really well to the care environment and some dont. Same goes for parents. But I can see how it is a really heartbreaking and hard decision to make.

Good luck!