Opinions please

[Arimeh]

but for now being a mum is all I really want.

And thats ok

I know I would rather DH do something he was passionate about, not just because he was afraid of disappointing me for not completing it. Seriously, if your passion is not there, its going to be something you regret - do you want to regret it? You've learnt something from it, even if you can't use it NOW, you may be able to use that knowledge in another job - even if you can't see it yet.

I say life is short - live it the way YOU want, and stop focusing on other people. If your DH is worried about it (which, knowing him, I'm sure he's not that worried, he would be more focused on YOU being happy and fulfilled) then talk to him about it, instead of assuming what he might be thinking. You never know - he might surprise you

(All this was said with love, and not a stern tone like it reads - ya know I luv ya xxx)

PS. I did 2 years of law, and my mum is still disappointed that I'm not continuing and becoming a solicitor - but its not where my passion is. So I *get* that disappointment bit, because I feel it all the time from my mum. However, she's not living my life - I am, and I refuse to do something I don't want to do just to make someone else happy. Sometimes you just gotta put yourself as number one xxx

[mir]

If you dont want to do anything with your degree then there is nothing wrong with that being a mum is just as important as any other career choice.

The only thing i would offer would be that it is worth finding out if there is a time limit on when you can complete your degree re hecs.
If there is seeing as you only have 4 units to go the advice that i would have is to finish them within that time limit. There are lots of things you can do with an arts degree and i've found that alot of them have nothing to do with the units youve studied. For example if youve studied english you might head towards a career that requires excellent written and vocal communication skills.

[skeetaboat]

Speaking on behalf of future Mir & Just to offer a different perspective, it may be worth finishing, because then, when you *do* know what you want to do, you can do a masters (within reason, some masters require a certain undergrad qual), and that's a shorter path (1.5-2 years) than starting a whole new degree (3-4 years). Something to think about. I would give some consideration to the future and check out what pathways this bachelor can offer you. I second checking out how long you have to complete. And in the end, whatever you decide, don't feel guilty. There's nothing wrong with living your life in the way that makes YOU happy, whatever way that is.

[surprised]

I had a few false starts with uni and can very much relate to everyone's stories. In the end I spent 6 years there and did 2 degrees, both of which are fairly useless! But it does give me immense satisfaction knowing that I finished them, even when it was very difficult. It's a really good point about postgrad study - I have heaps and heaps of options open to me now in terms of future study and career options, because I have finished a degree. In the scheme of things, 4 subjects isn't a huge amount - could you do them one at a time over the next couple of years? That way, uni isn't the 'main thing' in your life, and you are just chomping away at it all?

But in the end you're the one who has to live with your decision, so it's all totally up to you - best of luck with working out what you want hun.