Would you apply for a job that would make your DH unimpressed?

[feeb]

I had always wanted to do caseload and had been waiting and waiting for it to come from when I stared in 2003, it started in 2008 when I was going on maternity leave with DS1, I could not do it due to the fact that DH is not really flexibile at all!!! He cracks it and carrys on if I ask him to do anything on his way out the door! Don't get me started that I need to get both kids up and dressed and out to CC on my way to work 3 days a week! Anyway back to your question I would tell him how much this ment to you and how you would love the continuity. But sadly if he is not on the same page as you then it is going to be stressful for you and not as enjoyable as you imagine.

Good luck and I hope you can talk him round, life is so much more complicated with kids!

[surprised]

Are you allowed to live that far away for caseload midwifery?

[anney]

This is a really difficult dilemna. Sounds like your perfect job is only going to come along very rarely so you need to take that opportunity. However, on the other hand, you know that you will be having to continue to juggle all your current home duties. So have a think realistically about what that will be like and whether your DH will help you more than he does now.
I have had the opportunity in the last few years to change from my part time job I have been doing for many years to a full time more stimulating job however I know that I would be putting more pressure on myself as DH won't pick up the slack at all so I have resigned myself to the fact that part time is for me. Also, any time DD is sick, I am so thankful I did not take on full time work.
So having said all that, I would go for the job and try it out. If it doesn't work, you can resign after giving it a good go.