Iris I just have to say you have every right to not want people to smoke & hold Alana. It is Huge. My cousin grew up with her parents smoking in the house & they didn't know any better at that time. (you think it sounds reasonable now, but I guess 27 years ago things were different..) anyway when her mum moved her to live with us for a while and there was a no smoking policy in my house, she got so much better. She was struggling and in hospital for around 3 months of most of her life, and once in our house she never went to hospital at all... only after she moved out & in with one of her mum's boyfriends who, you guessed it smoked. Then she was in hospital within 2 months. So, contact with passive smoke must affect them, and maybe gently letting people know who want to hold her that because her lungs are at a great risk its better for her not to be too close to passive smoke. Sorry for the epic, but I want you to know it is okay to be firm about this. O