Dansta, i couldnt read and not post..
Wow, you are an extroadinary mum, and a huge hug hun.. no matter if you know now or found out later, its still a huge weight on your shoulders. But you know now, so there is alot of avenues for you to explore, His vey lucky to have you as his mumma, you sound absolutely amazing.. I dont know you that well and i cant say we have really crossed eachother, but you have taught me something today i never knew about, so Thank you..
Gl to you and your DH as you take this journey, and please even though you have plenty to read and stuff, if you dont mind please keep sharing your journey with your gorgeoous Dj.

P.s Im also happy they changed the name.. I couldnt imagine labelling a child with puppet child syndrome, just sounds and looks wrong..