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  1. #1
    Life Subscriber

    Jul 2006
    Brisbane
    6,683

    I'm thinking of you Christy. This is so much to deal with for you.

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
    8,944

    Ready for a long one??? This is what I wrote to the NSW Health Department in regards to what happened to us when we first moved to Sydney:

    To Whom it May Concern;

    My name is , and I would like to inform you of our experience at xxxxxx. My family moved into the area from Wynnum, Queensland in November 2008. Prior to our move, our oldest daughter had undergone a series of multidisciplinary assessments at the Mater Children’s Hospital Developmental Unit.

    The Mater Hospital referred us to xx Health to be put under the care of Dr xxxx. I phoned the office a few times in order to make an appointment prior to moving so we would be able to continue our process of finding a diagnosis for Matilda. The next stage for Matilda according to the Mater Children’s was to have an appointment with a psychologist They advised me that I had to see a paediatrican first once we moved to the area. My phoned calls were not returned, and when I reached a receptionist, I was told that I would be put on a waiting list and my referral had not been received. I phoned the Mater to be given the date faxed and was told they would mail the referral and history for me.

    In November 2008, I phoned again to be put through to Dr xxxx answering machine. I expressed my concern as my daughter was not going well. Her behaviour was deteriorating and her mental state was not good from the move.

    Dr xxx rang back a week later and set up an appointment time two weeks later. He asked that I bring the history to him prior to the appointment. At that time I phoned the Mater to be told that the history had been posted on November 11th 2008, two weeks prior to the phone call. I went down and dropped off another copy just in case it was lost.

    When we arrived for the appointment, Dr XXxx had not read the history. He asked us to start from the beginning, and as we started he stopped us 5 minutes into the discussion to say “Matilda does not have Austism, she is making eye contact with her father”. So we stopped talking and listened to him. We thought we would give it a try as he felt her difficult behaviours had to do with a lack of individual attention and suggested we do his “WWW”. It was over December holidays and we made another appointment in January.

    In the meantime, our daughter was unable to enter shops as she would scream for 6-8 hours after the trip. She was becoming physically aggressive towards us. She was frantic, most of the time. We had a diagnosis of Sensory Processing Disorder from the Occupational Therapist at the Mater Children’s and were able to get some help through Commonwealth Carers in order to be able to buy Christmas presents.

    We tried Watch Wait and Wonder over 2 weeks intensly. Matilda refused and hated it and would scream and attack us whenever we tried to do it, so we let it drop.

    When we revisited with Dr XXxx, he said he didn’t understand why she hated it, but that we needed to persist. That he understood her behaviour was difficult, but he still believed it had to do more with parenting than anything else.

    That halted our journey We had to get private help for Occupational Therapy for her Sensory issues, and that helped us.

    Matilda was ill in April and while we were at the Royal North Shore Hospital the paediatrician and registrars who looked after Matilda noticed that she was unable to make eye contact with anyone there. They discussed her case and approached us as her parents to discuss the need for her to get assessed for Autistic Spectrum Disorder. They had to refer us to a private paediatrician as the public on in our “area” was Dr XXXX. We had to wait 3 months to get in. Now, nearly 8 months after seeing Dr XXxx, Matilda has been diagnosed with mild Autism. She has turned 5 in that time and we have missed out 8 months of early intervention. We have missed out in over $3000 worth of help in preparing her for school and life that is available through public funding. We have missed out of months and months of a more peaceful household. We have had to cancel our holidays this year coming in order to get Matilda ready for school and because we can’t afford too.

    To say I am disappointed is an understatement. To say I am angry that the system has let us down is to put it mildly.

    I do not want to see another parent have to deal with this. We as parents are lucky to have support in other places, and even then have lost greatly in our emotional wellbeing. I need to feel that other parents of children will not be let down again.
    WDYT?

  3. #3
    Life Subscriber

    Jul 2006
    Brisbane
    6,683

    Oh Christy, that letter is so well worded - I can feel your emotion through it. It is so important to provide that feedback so that others can hopefully avoid the awful frustration that you have been through. Well done hun.

  4. #4
    Lucy in the sky with diamonds.

    Jan 2005
    Funky Town, Vic
    7,070

    Fat hugs hun

    Can you point out why (in bullet points maybe?) you are let down.
    * not being listened to
    * continually having to repeat yourselves
    * miscommunications etc etc etc

  5. #5
    murraysmum Guest

    well ive had a hell of a week last week murray wouldnt get off our couch he was just lethargic and angry he had red cheeks so i thought he was teething he was hot no temps the other half came home on saturday and mentioned murray had a swallon face kept an eye on it by 4pm sunday he looked like a football so off to the ed while in triage i told the male nurse he was in the last stages of autism assment and he wrote in big capital letters autisim got a diff rn lady she wouldnt listen to me or my partner kept calling me a pushy parent ect so i let her go for it she got bitten scratched and hit he wasnt going to let anyone near his face he hates to be touched on the side of the face best of times half an hour later she let me do it my way and it got done with alott of screaming he has a servre ear infection that burst and went both ways the swelling was from his lymnth nodes in his neck she gave me amoxacylin and this is where the fight has started he wont take it ive disguised it in about everything he wont drink it he knows its in there so we have had to hold him down and hope to small mercies he swallows

    so yeah hasnt been a good week he had to miss speach path today and all day he has screamed kicked bitten and thrown himself all over the place i feel at a loss i know hes not well but its so frustrating


    wow atleast ypu know whats wrong christy now big hugs tho

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Oct 2003
    Forestville NSW
    8,944

    Quote of the week "Its just Autism Christy.... you don't understand how hard I have it right now"

    I apologised for being so inconsiderate.

  7. #7
    Life Subscriber

    Jul 2006
    Brisbane
    6,683

    You're too nice Christy. That wouldn't have been my response

  8. #8
    murraysmum Guest

    well i wouldnt have appoligised i never appoligise i know we all have it hard but gosh its not like when openly whinge about our children
    big hugs hun