Thanks for answering my questions. Ofcourse since I started talking about this he has been good; granted he is sick though which usually means good behaviour lol
I brought it up with my Dh after I asked you guys about signs and he flipped his lid and accused me of looking to label him 'disabled' all because I cant handle him. Needless to say it erupted into WW3 because I did not appreciate him referring to ASD kids as disabled because they arent and because I didnt like his implication that it was my inadequacies as a parent causing the problems and not Ripleys behaviour itself. He thinks because he doesnt see alot of it that it isnt a problem; and that he is a boy and its what boys do. Granted I might be worrying over nothing but even if he isnt on the spectrum it is still unacceptable behaviour and we might need to source outside help to manage it. I think he thinks because he isnt openly 'different' in his behaviours or fits in with his personal idea of what a ASD kid 'is' then he mustnt be one iykwim? (I hope I havent offended anyone with what Ive said!)
So now I am second guessing myself. Some of his behaviour seems so random; I think thats the big thing for me. I spend alot of time thinking "Why on earth did you do that!?" because sometimes I struggle to wonder how his mind thought up what he does. He is picky with his food but not like what you ladies have mentioned. He seems ok with change; I guess he has no choice considering Dhs job. But we dont have alot of change in our daily lives because we dont do anything really aside from going to daycare which he seems ok with. I can take him to a play centre and he'll go and play but I dont think he really interacts with other kids. Daycare have said they dont really see too many issues with him apart from his temper. When he isnt trying to beat them up he can interacts with his brothers ok.
He is prob just quirky but I'll keep an eye on him for the time being. Thanks for letting me crash your thread and for answering my questions
Barb, I came to the conclusion that DD was just sensory, but starting school has brought out all the Aspy traits x 100 of what he had before.
Freya, if your DH doesn't have the right idea of Spectrum disorders than he can't bloody well go off about it. Give him the list I put up above so he can read for himself. From your posts he seems to tick off quite a few. DS was perfectly fine in childcare and did quite well in Kinder, probably why I am so taken aback at the depth of his behaviour now.
Remember how VARIED this can be. Loud noises don't bother mitch, he can be picky with food but also eats a huge range of other stuff when we are out. He doesn't line things up (BIG indicator) or get upset when his things are out of order.
The diagnosed aspy in my class doesn't line things up either, nor his he obsessed with things like many ASD kids are. He cuddles me when he feels like it and can be quite loving which I didn't expect.
Because its a spectrum there are so many millions of variations in behaviour, i think people have seen Rain Man and believe that is aspergers when its just how it maifested itself in ONE person IYKWIM?
DS's Big Friend at school is a wonderful child, I just adore him and he has all the patience in the world. He was visibly upset (I nearly cried too seeing him sad, he always has a 100 watt smile) and told me he wasn't doing very well in his comprehension test that day because he as Aspergers and is Dyslexic. I nearly fell over and wrapped him in a hug - he went stiff as a board and pulled away. First sign of Aspy I ever saw/felt but he was diagnosed long ago.
Apparently because DS has beautiful manners (which can also be read as "formal speech" lol) he can't be Aspy....phew - lol
See thats what I said to him, its a SPECTRUM not a pidgenhole I doubt Rip would be classed as anything beyond 'mild' but I still think it might be the reason why he is such a handful. Even my mother commented today that he is a 1000 miles a minute and how on earth do I cope. He just does.not.stop; I cant even take him shopping anymore because he has no understanding of acceptable behaviour, even when I know he understands when I tell him 'dont touch/dont push people/dont pull things off shelves/dont run away' because if Jett walks ahead or touches something he pulls him up on it Running and climbing things is the big one but he will not tolerate being in the pram. All hell breaks loose if I even suggest it. I can sympathise with Matilda's climbing the fence Christy; we've had him do that on numerous occasions, climb things we never thought he could (including his bedroom window at my old house even though I removed every bit of climb-aiding furniture; which had a 1.5mtre drop onto concrete on the other side).
Ive got a Drs appt for tuesday so I will talk to him about it then and see if we can get a referral to someone - is a behavioural specialist the right direction or should I ask to see someone different?
I'd go straight to a Paed that specialises in Spectrum kids. Some of the Sydney babes might be able to give you some names. You will need a referral and most likely have to wait a little while to get in....but it's all good.
I was reading back through chatter section#2 previous to this one, about the time I jumped in here. About page 2-3 are some brilliant posts from saram and lestyrox with reams of info and their thoughts of whereabouts their little ones at the time.
Although I feel right in tune with DS alot of the time, I still need help to understand that lovely little brain. It will help you too - ie as long as everyone understands that every piece of lego, duplo and knex in the universe belongs to Mitch all is well with the world
Anna - get a notepad and write down his little quirk's and see how quickly they add up.
and hey...your DH is going to see for himself this weekend now isnt he ;p
Mario has been upset every day after school this week because his carer has not come to his house for a visit ...she turned up today and he was happy.
he just came in and told me he need's different spray for spray on shoes. What the hell next?!
I have been recommended a behavioural psychologist who is supposed to be excellent at ASD he is in Pennant Hills which may be too far for you- his name is Neil Nichol (not sure of exact sp sorry).
i hope its ok for me to post a link to an article in here, i found it in out local paper, just thought id share as i didnt know if schools for kids with autism existed. i think its wonderful
I doubt Rip would be classed as anything beyond 'mild' but I still think it might be the reason why he is such a handful. Even my mother commented today that he is a 1000 miles a minute and how on earth do I cope. He just does.not.stop; I cant even take him shopping anymore because he has no understanding of acceptable behaviour, even when I know he understands when I tell him 'dont touch/dont push people/dont pull things off shelves/dont run away' because if Jett walks ahead or touches something he pulls him up on it 
Running and climbing things is the big one but he will not tolerate being in the pram. All hell breaks loose if I even suggest it. I can sympathise with Matilda's climbing the fence Christy; we've had him do that on numerous occasions, climb things we never thought he could (including his bedroom window at my old house even though I removed every bit of climb-aiding furniture; which had a 1.5mtre drop onto concrete on the other side). 
...she turned up today and he was happy.
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