Thanks for answering my questions. Ofcourse since I started talking about this he has been good; granted he is sick though which usually means good behaviour lol

I brought it up with my Dh after I asked you guys about signs and he flipped his lid and accused me of looking to label him 'disabled' all because I cant handle him. Needless to say it erupted into WW3 because I did not appreciate him referring to ASD kids as disabled because they arent and because I didnt like his implication that it was my inadequacies as a parent causing the problems and not Ripleys behaviour itself. He thinks because he doesnt see alot of it that it isnt a problem; and that he is a boy and its what boys do. Granted I might be worrying over nothing but even if he isnt on the spectrum it is still unacceptable behaviour and we might need to source outside help to manage it. I think he thinks because he isnt openly 'different' in his behaviours or fits in with his personal idea of what a ASD kid 'is' then he mustnt be one iykwim? (I hope I havent offended anyone with what Ive said!)

So now I am second guessing myself. Some of his behaviour seems so random; I think thats the big thing for me. I spend alot of time thinking "Why on earth did you do that!?" because sometimes I struggle to wonder how his mind thought up what he does. He is picky with his food but not like what you ladies have mentioned. He seems ok with change; I guess he has no choice considering Dhs job. But we dont have alot of change in our daily lives because we dont do anything really aside from going to daycare which he seems ok with. I can take him to a play centre and he'll go and play but I dont think he really interacts with other kids. Daycare have said they dont really see too many issues with him apart from his temper. When he isnt trying to beat them up he can interacts with his brothers ok.

He is prob just quirky but I'll keep an eye on him for the time being. Thanks for letting me crash your thread and for answering my questions