Tan, sounds like a change in school might be the way to go
Zaki, I can see some similarities between your DS and my DS1 hang in there, no advice, just hugs
HA, Massive HUGS for you too, what an overwhelming day. How old is princess and how much does she weigh?
We are still trying to settle in to the house, every bit of wind and DS1 freaks out and says "roof not come off" poor thing, he's terrified now.
I found something that helps calm him down today... it's not exactly the best thing, but it is at the same time iykwim. It's my vibration machine! He sat on it for about 2 mins and is now still calm after 30 mins! that's a record for us!
Last edited by Early Kids; February 10th, 2011 at 05:20 PM.
Firstly I'm so sorry for the selfish post. . . .I have not had a chance to read this whole thread yet.
I finally did it. I got the courage to have a good chat with DD's daycare teacher today about my suspicions that DD has a sensory disorder and her teacher did agree that DD has certain traits.
I have suspected something for a couple of years but the only thing thats held me back is the fact that DD is actually very social with other children so I kept telling myself that she is okay.
The main traits that DD displays are:
She wont look you directly in the eye
She is always on the go running around etc.
She is very very clumsy. She seems to trip over thin air and always has bruises on her legs
She is very tactile. hates cetain textures, dislikes anything woolen, hates getting creams or sunscreen put on, hates toothpaste on her toothbrush etc
She is very into routine and really strugles with change. She will have a major meltdown to the point of being inconsolable at anything that is different.
She has an awesome long term memory and is very intellegent. Boy is she intellegent.
She has been quite slow to TT and still refuses to poo in the toilet
She kind of seems to lack empathy.
I'm sure there is more that I just can't think of right now.
I have made an appointment with our local child health clinic to get the diagnosis ball rolling. Can anyone here tell me more about what the process will be? Her daycare teacher said they will probably send them forms to complete about her behaviours at daycare and may also visit the kindy to observe her.
MamaSpice - your DD sounds like my DS (he isnt much younger than your DD, a Jan 08 baby!) except my DS can look you in the eye sometimes. We're currently trying to figure out our best avenue for assessment. Our first step was to go see a child psychologist as they are the ones who can do the assessments. He is in speech therapy atm and should be in occupational therapy but unfortunately we cannot afford the private costs right now. Your DD's daycare teacher most definitely should put any observations in writing, my DS's daycare teacher is currently doing a social and behaviour observation report up for us. You've come to the right thread for advice and support, the ladies in here have been wonderful to me since we started on this rollercoaster!
Ugh. Things are not good with us. Rip's daycare teacher pulled me up last week to raise concerns over his social behaviour. He has become quite a loner at daycare now, he doesnt play or speak with any of the other kids, not even his little twin 'girlfriends' from whom he was inseparable before the christmas break. She mentioned it again this week; and that she was going to start observations and write up a report for us to give to his assessors. Even she said he isnt the same kid he was 6mths ago.
We're currently saving up for his assessments because the wait lists for public assessments is a million months long. We should have it all done by April.
Hi Freya, yes DD does sometimes look you in the eye too but mainly if she comes and tells you something. If you are trying to initiate a conversation with her though she won't do it.
i'm going to see what going the child health clinic road is like but if there are big delays I'll have to just get a referral to a specialist I think. But yes they're sooo expensive aren't they. I have to take DS to a paed on monday and it's costing $275.
DD's teacher is very switched on about sensory disorders etc. DD had a little boy in her class last year who has aspergers. Her teacher says that DD's traits aren't as severe but suspects she could defiantely be mildly affected.
The Spectrum and other cognitive disorders are so varied its amazing! Ds was informally assessed using the CARS assessment for ASD by his speechie and scored highly on it, yet Ive had a few people tell me because he is often loving and isnt completely socially inept that he couldnt be ASD. They seem to forget that ASD can vary in traits from child to child.
Sounds to me from what you described your DD could be a Sensory Seeker. My DS is a seeker, which is why he has a huge tendency to be overtly physical/aggressive and exaggerated in his everyday life. If he cant be stimulated by it he doesnt want to know about it. He touches, he tastes, he smells, he even deliberately hurts himself in order to process life. Its quite full on sometimes. If anyone looked at him they'd think I abuse him with the amount of injuries and bruises he has.
Yes that's very true, it varies so much doesn't it. DD is not very affectionate. She never has been. But she can be on the rare occasion when she wants to.
This weekend has been a weekend full of meltdowns. DD has had several, rangeing from about 20 minutes to an hour. She kicks and screams and cries and yells. I'm so surprised we havent had the cops land on our doorstep yet.
I try to be really patient and try to explain things to her and get her to settle down. And I try to distract her attention to something else. DH gets to a point where he can't take it and just yells at her (which obviously doesnt work, it makes her worse)
What do you do in these situations? I just don't know the best way I need to approach calming her down? HELP???
that's a record for us!
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