We saw the paed last week who "surprise surprise" told us it was all our faults & it was just behavioural after we were there for 5 minutes. *groan*
He said she was unable to regulate her emotions as well as sensory integration disorder... ummmm yeah.... and???? So he wanted us to start a thing called "Watch,Wait and Wonder" in order to provide Matilda with a way to express herself without our interfering but our presence. We have tried it and... nothing. No change... okay its only a week but seriously?? It means both DH & I have 3 turns a week of spending 30 minutes alone with Matilda. We sit on the floor with her, with some toys and nothing else. We don't initiate anything, we sit, if she communicates with us we are allowed to respond but we aren't to stifle her. So the first time I did it, she screamed because she didn't want to be in that room, so we moved and an hour later... maybe we had 5 minutes of doing it the right way. Than she screamed for the rest of the day. The next time I tried it, she went okay, but then screamed the rest of the day. Whenever DH has tried to do it, she has refused and screamed for hours.
I told the paed that I would continue to do it, but I felt like it was something else someone wanted us to do, but it just left DH & I open to more criticism and I didn't like that.
He has referred ME to councelling because I am a "distraught" mother.... I'm sorry, I don't swear but WTF??? OF course I'm frigging distraught!!!! WT???? Wouldn't you be in my situation? On the best day since our move, Matilda has screamed for a minimum of 2-3 hours. ??? Distraught????
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