How do you explain to your 6yr old HFA daughter that noone invites her for sleepovers coz noone can handle her, so sad, shes always asking but never gets invited then sees her friends down the street with their other friends & hears them talk about sleepovers with friends...heartbreaking
Yeah shes full on, yeah she gets a little crazy & has meltdowns (rarely these days shes doing well) but shes not a bad kid, she cant help it
I invite them & the parents often have excuses! The kids she spends most time with are kids that also belong to my friends the ones she has known for a long time!
Poor little poppet
It is horrible to feel like you are left out and not understand why.
It must be hard for you too.
I just want to give you and your DD some big
Are you a member of any autism networks? There are many parents of autistic children that are in similar situations and I'm sure you could find someone who understands what you are going through and would be willing to arrange some playdates. How old is your DD?
My daughter is 9. She has a mild to moderate intellectual impairment on top of the autism and difficulties with speech, but she's a lot of fun to play with
RD, im in a rush right now so will be coming back later to re-visit.
My quickest advice right now, having worked quite extensivley with children affected by Autism of all ages, would be to speak to the teachers and school about this and its negative affect on your daughter AND other children. If the teacher can do a group discussion or just explore this matter more in-depth as a subject with all of the children, barriers and perceptions could be shifted amongst the children themselves. Once this change is in motion, parents and their children will be more knowledgable and therefore comfortable with dealing with any occurences should they happen at a sleepover. My guess, would be that people are under-educated on this condition, it doesn't help that the media paints children with Autism as 'crazy and wild' when they're often highly intelligent! This plan of action will take time, but it is possible for this to be overcome. I believe it.
low functioning or high, it doesn't really matter. At the end of the day the other parents are likely to know how you feel as they probably have similar issue with their kids. My advice is to reach out, you never know, their support may be just what you need
Sorry I have no actual advice, DS1 is only 4 o sleepover with kids from Kindy is not at option.
we had similar issues of course. Matilda has had sleep overs with her "cousins" (one of my best friends girls) and sometimes its so hard on both of them that it takes months to recover and she keeps asking and wondering why no one will have her over. She's so much better than she used to be, but its hard for her to understand that its also hard on the other kids sometimes.
I have found that older kids are better, they are more patient with her. She's slept over at mrsmac's house once and loved it and was perfectly behaved!!! I think it takes understand on the children and the mum's part.
I agree with trying to get in touch with other autism parents, they tend to understand more. Even if another child is lower functioning, they work together, they "get" each other and often times will find other ways of communicating. My DD1 was with me at preschool picking up DD2 and went up to the low functioning ASD boy there and sat next to him and drew and pointed to things... he doesn't speak but somehow they started communicating with each other. In a matter of 10 minutes... it was amazing to see. They are both very social...
I don't really have advise, though I do have a nephew with high functioning autism, he is very full on but is quiet easy to calm down once you show interests in the things his interested in.
I'm not sure his been to sleep overs so I can't say.
But huge hugs to your dd!! I don't think you have to explain it to her, I think you need to explain it to the other parents so they aren't oblivious to the fact your dd is being isolated for being a little bit more hands on, she deserves the same as everyone else, I think also alot of parents are the ones dictating who their child chooses to bring home , sad very sad I know, but I too would try and bring a greater understanding to the school and the parents to show she is just as lovable if not more...
Huge hugs..
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