I think that's why I feel bad- my intuition (and early childhood training!!) was telling me it wasn't right but my H kept saying it was just him (quiet) and he was fine etc. And I wanted to believe that. He doesnt have enough indicators of something more serious such as autism so I guess I tried to brush it off. Since my H had some time off with our new baby and joined us at playgroup etc hes seen other children our son's age and realised how significantly different he is and I think we've been brought back to reality.

Thanks for listening and offering advice and support