Firstly, I'm so sorry for all of you who are going through this. My little girl's hip is not dislocated so we didn't need surgery. I cried for 2 days just with the brace (stupid, but I can't help it). I can only imagine what you are feeling.
Nat - I meant to say too that it really doesn't matter how agressive our babies treatment is, or who 'worse off' as such - as it doesn't change the emotion, or the heartbreak of what we watch our kids go through no matter what stage they are at. We all deal with the situation we have in front of us medically, but the emotional rollercoaster we ride is the same, so we all know what you are going through (and yep, I've cried for days at my DS's brace too)