I was about to jump in ask if you have worries about having another special needs kid thrown into the mix...you beat me to it by answering that one lol.

how long was the really really hard times with DS1 and DS2 together? Do you think that it could last as long again? Thinking that you guys are pretty settled where you are...no OS move, GAPS well and truly part of your lives, social connections being made etc. i know that is a bit of 'how long is a piece of string' question, but this is the stuff that i have thought about after my PTSD and wondered if i could go through it again ITMS.

I know that our situation is different in that no doubt DD3s needs will resolve and the impacts on our lives directly are no where near as intense as with that of a child with an ASD, but it is raising questions for us about how we feel about adding to our brood (ie: will we cope if this continues, what would be the hardest aspects, is it fair to our other kids, what if the next baby also is born with needs beyond the norm etc etc). in our situation DH and I tend to want to prepare for the worst (ie when we wanted another baby after our first we just concluded that i would collapse and fall apart with the PTSD, and TBH at the moment we are not sure whether to take the plunge for another due to DD3s stuff that is going on.