My situation is a bit different. My ds's issues are more medical in nature. I can relate to charlottes thinking about appointments and medical expenses.
For us, and its incredibly morbid, but our thinking about a third was the knowledge that we have no idea how long ds will be with us. He could live another 60 years or we could lose him tomorrow. I couldn't bare the thought of dd being alone once dh and I were gone. We always wanted three but she was really what swayed the decision for us. (That and an oops pregnancy. Lol) so for us I guess, ds's special needs made it more important that we had a third.
My story is also different. Although neither of my kids has any symptoms at this time, they have a high chance of inheriting my neuro condition. I did not TTC for any of my pregnancies. My first in particular was quite a surprise, however, i am very grateful for this because i was really struggling with making the decision to TTC, knowing the risks. In saying this, i think i have pushed my luck as far as i can go, for my health through pregnancies, and for my kids and i want more permanent contraception once this baby is here.
i guess i have gone a bit with the head in the sand, i will deal with things as they come up, and things will be ok.
My parents wanted more kids but stopped after me due to one of my brothers and i having talipes. Their reasons were not wanting to put another child through treatments etc, once it appeared that there was a genetic component.
Last edited by HotI; August 25th, 2013 at 06:57 PM.
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