Need to get it out there before I lose my mind

[Olive]

I take my hat off to you....it must be tough
Maybe jump in here and have a chat with other mums
https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...97/index3.html

Xxx

[Mrs O'M]

I have no advice, but also take my hat off to you. Sounds like you are doing an amazing job! I hope you get some answers and the support you need soon!

[Sunny Love]

I'm afraid I don't have any financial advice to offer, but early intervention is best thing working in your favour right now. It really is like the saying goes, "It's hard to see a silver lining when you're stuck in the stormcloud". How true of ASD.
For your own download and respite, perhaps start a journal/blog, maybe share it with your partner. Tell it everything, allow yourself be un-judged.
For managing at home before services begin etc, equip yourself with basic activities, strategies & simple routines that will be useful throughout the day regarding all the kids. Maybe create a visual timetable for you, and the kids, to follow.
You're probably already doing these things I've suggested, but my main point is to see your own strength and use it to push forward.

[TaRhLi.]

Thanks Olive

[TaRhLi.]

Thanks Sunny Love for your ideas, routine is paramount in our household - I think having twins does that to you anyway - and any variation to routine it becomes meltdown city...

I really struggle with basic things with the boys - taking DD to kinder is a nightmare as they have a tantrum because we have to get out of the car, have a tantrum because they have to be confined to the pram (or else they run away) have a tantrum because we have to get back in the car etc.

It is pretty much their way or no way and trying to wrestle 2 x 14kg boys who are stronger than me is hard to do. I would love just 1 day break from them but then I miss them too much when I'm away. DH doesn't seem to think there is too much wrong with them and that they are just being boys and even when he has too look after them himself he doesn't seem to see the tantrums, bad behaviour and the kicking and hitting I have to deal with or if he does he chooses to ignore it. He likes to tell me that if I want to go back to work full time he will stay home with the kids as it would be easier and when he calls during the day and asks how everyone is, when I tell him what meltdowns, tantrums etc have occurred he laughs it off. Until a professional tells him there is something to worry about he won't believe it....