I feel kinda silly posting this but I need to know if I should be concerned about DD.
Sara is nearly 3yo and is extremely bright. She has reached milestones way ahead of time. She speaks 2 languages, she dances, plays well with other kids, etc but she has particular ways of doing things and if you muck with her system then all hell breaks lose.
For instance if I help her off the toilet she'll scream to the point of hyperventilation, until I let her get back on and get off her self. Same for getting in and out of the bath, on or off her bed. She won't let me dress her. There are other little things but you get the picture. My mum has OCD and I concerned that Sara may have some of her traits.
Is this normal 3yo behaviour? What should I do/look for?
Bek. Obviously I don't have a 3-y-o so can't give you personal experience, however from books I have read, many youngsters are very big on controlling what they can. Is it possible to reason with her? Like when you are in a hurry and need to dress her quickly?
Perhaps you could have a chat to your family Dr or a MCHN that you trust?
All the best - it must be very trying on your patience!
Snacks - It is hard to reason with her, in the end it is easier just to let her do it all herself then cause a scene. Getting dressed is a nightmare. If I help in anyway or touch any item of clothing she'll derobe and start again. She is the ultimate control freak...mine you she does come from a long line of us
Oh dear! LOL. I can just imagine. Hoping she grows out of it very soon for you.
(And hoping someone with a similar story posts soon and sets your mind at ease!)
Mostly have thought it was her personality but my SIL witnessed a bathing experience the other night and she told me whilst rolling her eyes "my girls are never like that"...geeze she's fussy isn't she!!! Kinda got me thinking.
Like mrsmac said, I wouldn't worry too much about it, but it is something to stow away for later if you need it.
My 2 yr old will scream the house down if we put her up on the trampoline, she HAS to climb the ladder herself so we often have to take her off the tramp to let her do it herself... She is normal. Very normal... but I have perspective from her older sister.
My 4 yr old would have held her breath until she passed out, or done self harm if we did something that wasn't what she thought was happening. She still will have massive melt downs if things don't go the way she thought they should, i.e. we give her the wrong coloured straw with her drink for dinner, she can't verbalise what is wrong but it takes an hour or so of screaming to work it out. She is in the diagnosis rollercoaster ride for Asperger's...
Don't panic but I would get her checked out, it does sound like some of the traits of OCD or aspegers but maybe its just her personality. Its very easy to think the worst but it could be nothing so you need to set your mind at ease.
Should I be concerned?
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Bek. Obviously I don't have a 3-y-o so can't give you personal experience, however from books I have read, many youngsters are very big on controlling what they can. Is it possible to reason with her? Like when you are in a hurry and need to dress her quickly?
so we often have to take her off the tramp to let her do it herself... She is normal. Very normal... but I have perspective from her older sister.
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