So I finally get some one who agrees, but now what?

[christy]

FJ - welcome to the world of ASD, I've heard it said so many times that its not really there, that its a behaviour thing, or that they are "normal" and it is a parenting thing.... when you start having other children, you notice and know when something is "different"

[*Efjay*]

you know whats funny. When Evan was a baby/toddler we use to joke about how "domestic & industrious" he was. But now I can look back & go hmmmmm yeah not quite the neat freak we thought. Well it wasn't the reasons for it.
Iain is also like this now. He is very similar to Evan as a toddler actually BUT the big difference is Iain is affectionate where Evan never was. But Iain is very particular about things. He likes things to be where he thinks they should be.
Evan now, can't keep his own things tidy but is particular about other peoples things. he spends his day at school picking up other peoples belongings or rubbish etc, yet his own desk/area is a mess.
But hey, He socialises well with the optometrist. So he must be fine. I wonder if I can get his address & arrange a sleep over because obviously he can be Evans new (who am I kidding, new? ONLY) best friend! Yay! all his problems are solved.

[christy]

I remember when we were going throught stuff with M and you would say "Evan does that"....

[*Efjay*]

Oh I have thought this along. but got fobbed off by everyone in NSW. Everyone except the one person who wasn't in a position to give his opinion. His counsellor. He often asked if I had thought of Asperges & we spoke of it often. But Unfortunately he wasn't in a professional position to give us what we needed.

I did start to doubt myself though after everyone kept saying it was just his anxiety.

We just had the p&t interview at school for both boys. Poor Evan. He is doing "ok" not great but ok academically. But socially they are concerned. Apparently he spends his lunch/play times hanging around the classrooms which are locked just waiting for the chance to come in. Even asking to stay behind & do work when other kids are being punished by missing out on play & finishing work. He just doesn't want to be out in the playground with other kids.