What can I do to help my friend who's DS was just diagnosed with autism?

[~Saram~]

Hang in there and keep offering. a few things from my perspective - yep outings are a no go here, it's no fun cause I can't relax so I stopped going. Also people coming to my house - sometimes good and sometimes not. If she is stressed and her house isn't perfect it might cause more stress. Also for a long time there... I hate to say it but I was embarrassed for DS. Also I still won't allow anyone else to look after DS while I go out. DH has just gotten up the confidence to look after him without making me feel like a piece of poop when I get home.

Stay in touch, text, emails etc. I love these as I can deal with them when I get some peace. I hate phone calls as DS talks incessently and just follows me around talk talk talking and I can't concentrate.

[Moi]

Thanks. These posts are very helpful for me.

~Saram~ - Yes every time I call her I can hear her son in the background. I can imagine it must make it very hard for her to concentrate on what I am saying. I have learnt to text her and ask when's a good time to call before calling.

maz - Thanks for the kind words. And for the advice. I think I do try and offer her advice sometimes instead of listening. I'll have to try and bite my tongue!

murraysmum - I guess it's still very early days for her. I do hope she lets me and others in eventually.

Because of all your advice I am in the process of organising a night out to dinner and movies. And she has said she'll come. I thought she could do with a night off and thankfully her husband has said he'll look after their DS. So fingers crossed she makes it out. If not I'll just keep trying other times.