I am hoping this will not belong here but I will post it here to see if this sounds like something with a label or just behavioral.
DD#4 is such a moody little thing. She will scream at the top of her lungs at everyone and you can't get her to stop without her having a spack attack. SHe will be happy one second and completely nutso the next. When I talk to her I feel like I have to tread on eggshells for fear of setting her off. DP was saying this evening when she was having a screaming fit while DP was getting her out of the bath that he wants to take her to see "someone"... DD#1 thinks she is bipolar and I said that to one of my sisters after she had her for the day and she replied that maybe she has.
What do you think? She is very challenging, more so than any of the others.
It's hard to tell sometimes isn't it - what's normal but frustrating and what isn't. If you're concerned I think it's better to see your GP about a referral now and be told that she's ok than to wish that you had seen someone later on down the track.
Thanx C, I guess I haven't done anything about it because i am waiting for her to grow out of it, but it seems to be getting worse. And I guess I feel that if I take her to someone she will be as good as gold and all the problems that I explain will be normal and I will feel silly... KWIM?
The first time I took Yasin to see the speechy about his stutter he was having a good day and I thought that she would send me on my way but she believed me. I think that most professionals who work with kids know that they have good and bad days but they also know that parents don't come and see them unless the bad days are outweighing the good.
i think its better to be told there is nothing wrong and feel silly than to be told years down the track that there is something wrong and wish you had done something sooner.... Hugs that your having a challenging time.
Listen to your head babe.....if you think something is'nt right then take the steps. On the other hand, she might just be your wild child in the making
It's hard to say, but maybe having 3 older sisters it's her way of getting attention I don't know. My little brother used to be like that when he was young- he's 20 now and fine. But it is hard to say I guess, plus no harm in getting her seen to just to make sure.
Given you have other older kids, I think you've probably got good instincts about what's what's broadly 'normal'. I'm not saying there's anything going on cause I don't know. It could just be a phase or a behavioural response that she will grow out of but the fact that you're 'walking on eggshells' with her is a good indicator that her behaviour is pretty extreme. I think she needs an assessment. If for no other reason than you get another opinion and some peace of mind and maybe some new strategies to try. If there is something more than a 'phase' going on, early intervention now (or soon) will really make a difference in the long run.
i dont know if its different with younger kids, but with bipolar I think the manic and depressive episode last weeks at a time.
Go have a talk with your GP or paed about your DDs behaviour if you are worried. GL.
Have the eposodes been more extreme since O was born? Perhaps shes just trying to assert herself more and get the attension as she knows your busy? But like the other ladies have said if you are worried then definately seek another opinion from a GP. Mummies instincts are something to be listened to.
Fingers crossed it is just a phase
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Thank you everyone
Min, nup, there are a few other minor things that have begun since O was born and they are beginning to sort themselves out, thankfully!
I know you aren't normally one to think that something is wrong as soon as it starts, but if others are thinking it is starting to be a problem, then maybe it wont hurt to at least start investigating this because as you know, waiting lists for specialists can be long and if you can get on top of any problems before she starts kinder (if there are any) then she can only benefit I don't think it would be bipolar though, I didn't think that emerged till they were in their teens?
If you are worried that she might have a good day when you see someone, is it possible to take a video of her to catch her at her worst and take with you?
There is certainly no harm at all in asking for professionals opinions on things. I think mothers instincts are usually right. I know from my own experiences with my middle son, that you have to follow your heart on these things. From day 1 i felt he wasn't quite right (in fact, it was even in pregnancy i had that feeling) and i took him to my GP and asked for a pead. referral. I got one. My son ended up being diagnosed with autism (even though for a year and a half they said there was something, but it wasn't quite bad enough to be diagnosed as autism) And i do wonder where my son would be now if i hadn't followed my instincts on this and sought help for him.
If it turns out to be nothing, you will be happy. If it turns out to be something, you will be happy you sought help. I think asking for help is the best thing you could do.
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It's hard to tell sometimes isn't it - what's normal but frustrating and what isn't. If you're concerned I think it's better to see your GP about a referral now and be told that she's ok than to wish that you had seen someone later on down the track.
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