Worried sick about DS - is there anything I can do?

[Muppity]

Oh Willow. Telling you not to worry really isn't going to help is it. But I agree with Lulu that if you googled any symptom you would come up with thousands of things that "could" be wrong with any child.

How about a happy story instead.

My little sis had a rapidly expanding head circumference. In her first few months of life she had x-rays, lumbar punctures (imagine doing that to a 3 week old bub), ultrasounds and any number of tests. Everything came back clear but it didn't stop my Mum having a complete breakdown thinking there was something terribly terribly wrong with her.

Turns out that she just had a rapidly expanding head circumference and it just took a while for her body to catch up. Now she is a wonderful intelligent articulate young woman (although please don't read my boo hoo thread from a few weeks ago about how irrisponsible she is - ) with no ill effects at all.

I say if the tests that have come back are all clear and if it weren't for this one measurement he would be a happy little boy then just take it as something you have to watch. And if it is an indicator of something at least you will be on the lookout for other signs and will be able to recognise them early.

If your paed was happy and you were happy until you read this article then I would just let it slide and not stress too much about it. But by all means if you are still worried then call your paed and ask them.

[Doing my best]

Willow,

I won't tell you not to stress, cause as mothers it what we seem to do so well, but if you have faith in your pead, trust his guidance. If he says again that he just wants to moniter it, put the bad thoughts somewhere deep into your mind (where you really have to dig for them), and think of how wonderful your little boy is instead..

I have a habit of thinking the worst and DH always pulls me into line, and I will not let it rest if I really believe it is worth worrying about. I also think that DP's are great at picking up on things as they don't see the little ones for as long as we do each day. We tend to notice the smallest change in them, and at times can think the worst..

Hoping that you cheer up soon.. Sending your way.

[happygran]

Hi Willow

I often wonder how any woman survives being a mum. I am now a nanna and I am still worrying not only for my DD, but their partners and now my two adorable grandchildren. But I do have another funny "head" story. Adorable grandson had the biggest head I had ever seen. He was a normal sized baby, but his head was enormous. The MCH nurse went on and on about his head and of course terrified my DD and her husband. Off the the doctor they went thinking the worse. He checked out the baby and then very seriously said that yes there was a problem and he thought it was unfortunately hereditary. It was the case of like father like son. We had never noticed before, but my son in law also has an enormous head. Anyway my grandson is now a wonderful normal 2yo and his new sister has a really "little" head so here we go again. Enjoy you wonderful family
Chris

[~Trish~]

Willow - I was thinking about your thread in the shower (where I do a lot of my thinking LOL). As you know, people generally only post in forums about things like large head circs. etc when they think there is a problem or they need help/support, so you really only tend to find negative things on the web, not positive if that makes sense. You never find threads started by people saying "My DS has a large head circ. and he is doing great, there is nothing wrong with him". Yet there are loads of babies that are JUST FINE!

Years ago I worked for a few months in the Aussie Post call centre and all you ever got were phone calls of complaints and missing mail. You begin to think that you can't trust Aussie Post because everything goes wrong or goes missing! The reality is that the majority of mail arrives with no problems, it's just that no one rings the call centre to say, "I got my mail today, thanks very much" LOL!

So I suppose in my rambling way, I am saying you really are only hearing the bad stuff in forums so try not to diagnose things from the web! (I am guilty too, don't feel bad )

[Lulu]

Lovely post Chris.

Good point Trish, hang in there Willow - trust the people who have replied, esp your mate Michelle. The bubble isn't going to burst - your little fella is in safe hands - YOURS!

[Visitor9]

Willow,
Our DD has a very large head circumference ( thank goodness I never googled it) 98% percentile she was IVF.
She is 3 and still has a large head (hats never fit) but is clever and thoughtful reaching all her milestones. It is so hard to grasp that something might be wrong with your precious one but enjoy all the beautiful achievements.
Eliza often showed autistic traits she still does but she has quirks that resemble alot of them, I had to learn to accept what may be will be and there was nothing but unconditional love and support was the only thing at this stage I could give.
Bec
I also think that the fact I had two 2nd tri miscarriages made me analyis everything now as she has turned 3 I think all those precious moments I cried with fear and anxiety I lost. BUT in saying that no-one could of told me that there was nothing wrong and I would of believed it. Big hugs hun

[Willow]

It was the case of like father like son.

Funny you should say that, our doctor and the sonographer who did his scans said the same thing! I have a big head too apparently, so his paed just put it down to genes, and it might be as simple as that, but it's still worrying all the same.

Thanks for all your posts girls, I'm feeling a bit better about it today.