Thanks MR, I'm feeling more confident I'm on the right track.

Well, she just had her second 'meal'. I decided to try not to get put off after the first time and it was mainly the banana she had trouble with so I just didn't give her that again. Thought I'd try again without mashing anything and gave her some carrot, broccoli, and beans. And she was great!! I can't believe how much better she was after only 1 day! I dried them off a bit first so she could pick them up herself better and she had no trouble. She picked each one up and had a munch. Gagged a bit on the carrot but nothing bad, just coughed it back up and chewed more. Bit off a big hunk of broccoli and swallowed most of it!! DH and I heard a big gulp and just looked at each other amazed!! So I am feeling much better about it now. Got some good photos of her screwing up her face too, haha.