i don't have a small baby, so i may be off track with my answer here - but i will ask - do you offer your DD anything like yogurt? food that is always going to be spoon fed, but isn't puree? we have gone with BLS, but every couple of days DD gets yogurt for dessert. she will continue getting it when she's older, so i don't have a problem offering it (it's not like she will later have to get used to yogurt being a different texture kwim?). we load the spoon and let her feed herself. she gets a bit on her face, but manages to feed herself surprisingly well! same with spag bol and vegie soup (though we put some bread in that sometimes to make it a big chunkier!)

i can only imagine how difficult it would be to be in your situation at the moment. when our kids are involved, the little things (pardon the pun) get to us big time. if you're content that your baby is happy and healthy, then let instinct (not fear) guide you. if you WANT to introduce puree, introduce it - but do it because it's what you want, not because it's what you think will boost DD's weight and keep her from going to the paed kwim? keep long term goals in mind as well as short term hurdles...