Changing your mind...

[Rivlas]

We had Nerida picked for DD2 but when she was born she just didn't fit the name. The one we went with really suits her and the shortened version even better.

[Charlotte91]

TBH (hoping I don't offend anyone, it's not my intention), I don't know that a baby 'looks' like any name. It's just a baby. After a day or 2 you won't think of them as any other name.
We had our names picked from conception, even before conception.

[Arimeh]

TBH (hoping I don't offend anyone, it's not my intention), I don't know that a baby 'looks' like any name. It's just a baby. After a day or 2 you won't think of them as any other name.

I don't agree with this - I've often struggled with the names that I have given my children and wondered for at least the first year if its the right one for them.

So you know, you may not think that their name totally suits them, but I believe they grow into it - sometimes it takes longer than a day or two.

[~clover~]

Yeah, I knew from the minute DD2 was born the name we were thinking of first didn't suit her. She may've grown into it She'd need a complete personality change to suit that name

[Jellyfish]

DD2 was going to be April, picked out almost as soon as she was deemed a female. A few weeks before she was born, I revisited a name I had dismissed due to being too close to a relative and I could not get it off my mind. April suddenly felt completely wrong.

I think babies can suit or not suit a name. I know DD2 would have suited April but I think her actual name fits a lot better. Another name we were considering would not have worked at all; Allegra but it would have suited DD1 perfectly (although her actual name does also).

[Cass72]

Well, I was shocked when we found out that we were having a boy. DH suggested we name DS2 after my father. It was agreed and he got my dad's first and second name.

Whenever I told someone his name when he was born, they would say, Oh, is he named after someone?

His name is Robert and well, personally I think it's a lovely name. Mind you, it took me ages to get used to calling him Robert - but he's grown into it perfectly! And heaven forbid he's even picked up a few of my dear old dads traits!!

Oh and I think Oliver is a lovely name.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I don't know if Liebling "suits" his name, but the hassle we had of picking names meant that he has his name and it WILL fit. Having said that, if we'd gone with Matthias I reckon it would suit him just as much. And I have had people think his name is Daniel or William too, so call him that (much to our confusion - although both of those were also on my shortlist). Because I associate him with his name, rather than picking what I think his name is associated with and think he needs a certain look/characteristic to "be" that name.

TBH, if I were picking a name based on looks and character, it would probably be Bilbo. But just because he is short, eats 3 breakfasts a day and I cut his hair so he looks like a hobbit (sorry Liebs, but that's what you said you wanted when I had scissors in my hand!) doesn't mean he's less precious cos another name would suit better.

So I say go with Oliver if you like the name. You can always give him the name he "looks like" (I don't understand that either!) as a middle name and call him that if you like. I know an Oliver who gets called his middle name because it suits him more.

(eta - Liebs would like to be called Kit, for preference. So even though his name isn't Christopher, we call him Kit when he wants to be. Nothing to stop you just using a name you like without it being your son's actual name.)