I say do what you want names are hard enough without bring the rest of the family in on the discussion.

My middle name is Arwen, (Yep! from Lord of the Rings) We were thinking about keeping that going and picking a name from a book we like. We couldn't agree on a name or a book. So we decieded to go with my Pa's name. He passed away when Dad was a teenager. We didn't tell anyone we were going to do it. We just anounced the name. Dad still gets all teary when he says the full name.

I say go for what can be yelled from the back door and sounds authoritive. The middle names are only really bought out when kids are in trouble. Well that's what it was like at my place. If I got "Melissa Arwen" I knew i was in for it.