Thanks again for all of the responses and suggestions - we still have not come to a decision but I am feeling a bit better about it now...

A couple of people have mentioned 'sam', but as *I* am a sam it won't really work although I think it is cute for a little boy, and we might use it for one of the middle names.

My dh did ask his brother about how they felt about us potentially using Zachary - and he doesn't mind and asked his son who would be happy with it too. So that is nice to know, we still may or may not use it but it takes a bit of the pressure off because we know that we *can* use it and it should be ok!

starangelk - I just LOVE Xander, it is pretty much one of my fav boys names - but can't use it (bad associations in dh's family) - drat it!!! I don't know how keen dh would have been on the name despite that, but yeah, I totally agree with you (ahhh, names that start with X are just way cool )

Besides that, I am still quite liking both Oliver and Gabriel, so I am feeling like we have some options on the table. I am thinking of Jude atm as well (although I know dh won't let me use the full 'Judah'.) People have suggested some nice names, I really like Finn, but dh doesn't. I like 'Zane' too, but it is another name in dh's family!!!

Rowellen - I know what you mean about people ruining perfectly good names for us DH's family have a lot to answer for!!!!! Also, I have couple of ex-boyfriends whose names I really quite like, but of course that is a no-go zone haha.

We'll get there!