HELP - Only 2wks to decide...

[beansbeans!]

If its already a comon name then the chances are you come across a few kids with the same name.

If its a name you both love then use it. A name does not make a child unique, its their personality that does. (Among other things too)


(DD1 has an uncommon name, we thought she would be the only one with it. But no, her best friend has the same name. But as mums, we have discovered that the upside to them sharing names is when they are together its one less name to call out to, etc)

[forshelby]

We found it hard to agree on names also. I like more obscure names, DP not so much. We came up with a short list of boys and girls names (DS was a surprise) and had 2 girls names and 3 boys names we both agreed we liked. In the end, when we saw his little face he just didn't feel like a Heath or an Owen. So Axel it was!! I had my heart set on that name since 9weeks pg. It just popped into my mind one day and wouldn't leave me alone lol.

It still took me 2 days to name him though. I wanted to test out the other names in my mind first. When they asked me if bub had a name for the 50th time, I grabbed my pen and paper (I couldn't speak due to ventilation) and wrote AXEL TIMOTHY. Timothy wasn't even on our list at all. A lady put her hand on my shoulder and whispered 'What about Timothy?' I later found out there was no lady. DP thinks it was the morphine, but I think it was MIL, because that's her brothers name, and we had planned to name a girl after her. I feel her presence often in our home. And when things are hard, I call out to her for help.

Naming a child is such a personal thing. I think if your heart was really set on it, go for it. Depending of course on how close you are with your friend, the likelihood of your kids being playmates, and the obscurity of the name. But really, for me- if someone had taken Axel's name, I would have used it anyway and scolded them for stealing my fantastic idea. But I'm mean like that!!

[kristi14]

I would speak to your friend, ask how she feels if you used the same name if baby happens to be the same sex.

Hope you get it sorted out soon

[fromscratch]

Can you alter the spelling slightly?
Like using a c instead of a K?
I'd have a small chat with your friend if they are close friends and are likely to spend a great deal of time together and tell her that the name she has chosen is also your chosen name as it is a family name. Explain the family connection and I would gently tell her that you will also be using the name if your child is the same gender.

I was mortified when a friend called her new born daughter the name we gave our dog and with the exact same spelling. Not because I was Oh you can't do that but shocked as she knew our dog had the same name.....not sure I could do that personaly naming a child after an animal but saying that she really liked the name and adored the spelling. As long as she's happy thats the key I guess.

[Tinks]

I think you should still use it. One of my close friends has a child with the same name as my DD, it's never been an issue.

[<3 Mumofthreetobe <3]

I have since seen my friend & told her the situation. She doesn't have a problem at all with me still using that name =) (You watch, we'll have a girl now & all this worry would have been for nothing). BUT on a very exciting note, she asked us to be godparents to her new little fella! So stoked!!

[lady_neon]

I have since seen my friend & told her the situation. She doesn't have a problem at all with me still using that name =) (You watch, we'll have a girl now & all this worry would have been for nothing). BUT on a very exciting note, she asked us to be godparents to her new little fella! So stoked!!

Great news