His or my surname?

[AngelPants]

Personally I think it depends on the circumstances, if it were me and my children were going to see their dad & he was active in their life then I would give them his.
If he was nowhere to be seen they would get mine.

i tend to agree with this. tho i hated having a different name to DS before DH & I got married.

i manage ok with 2 alternative spellings of my given name. its spelt differently on my birth cert, marriage cert and medicare stuff than anything else so you can have one thing on the birth cert then something different for everyday use. or you could have your last name as a 2nd middle name? i know a few people who did this.

[Nai]

Yours!

[kristi14]

Sorry to hear of your recent seperation, i hope you are going ok, im sure its stressful at times.

It would really depend on how you feel about your ex but personally if it was amicable and i was on reasonably good terms with my ex i would give the baby his surname so that both my children had the same surname because for their sake, if they are full blood siblings then i think it would be confusing for them to have different surnames. If it was baby #1 i might have a different opinion. This is purely my opinion though.

[Ashlee]

I should have made it more clear, my DS and the baby I'm pregnant with, don't have the same father - so my DS's last name will be different to this baby's no matter what.

I wouldn't consider the option of this bub having DS's surname.

Thanks for the feedback though, I appreciate it everyone.

[Party-of-five]

I seperated with DSs father before he was born and he has my maiden name, when I married my DH I asked if he wanted to change his name but he said he likes having the same last name as his Pop Pop

[RockingBaker]

My DDs have my last name and I was single when I had them. I'd definitely use yours if I was you.