Urgh, you have my sympathy MrsS. My MIL thought it was her God given right to know the gender and the names...she would have bet her house we were keeping the gender from her on purpose (but we didn't even know). She also wanted naming rights...yeah sure.
With DS we did know but we certainly weren't letting on. She bunged it on again, and we fobbed her - again. She was ropeable when she found out that we did tell one person, and she told another (my uncle and godfather and her husband who sadly took that info to his grave not 24hours later). She wanted to know why she hadn't been important enough to tell....
I can't believe people are giving you a hard time about keeping your names a secret.
I kept my names a secret both times. Names are hard enough to work out without having other peoples opinions play a role. With #2 We kept his gender a secret too.
omg my mother drove/drives me nuts asking what names we like/liked etc
We found out the sex when preg with DS and she started on it. I ended up saying we have a shortlist but want to see him first before naming him. The response was "what's on the list".
So i just told her bluntly we aren't telling anyone our name choices. She got huffy and wanted to know what... my answer shut her up .. "Because I don't want anyone else's opinion, it's mine and Dh's choice".
So that got around it for DS... now she's at it again "oh what names do you like". And again i just keep saying "i'm not telling you cos I don't want your opinion". That or I just "not sure, haven't gotten that far. will let you know when bubs arrives". Or when she does it in front of other people (to put me on the spot) i say "i told you already, we are not telling anyone". Or what about saying "unless you were there for conception, you don't get a say in the name... or a spot at the birth"
it really annoys me how some people think they have a right to know everything about the baby before the baby is born. Not only that, you'll probably swing between names before decising on one... we were deadset going with Andrew until a month before and Andrew didn't even make the shortlist we took to the hospital.
GL - sounds like you've got a pushy one on your hands. My sister told me she was sending me a list of names i wasn't allowed to use jic she had kids one day WTF?? I told her to send it, as I needed some suggestions and if i liked one, would take great pleasure in using it if I so wanted... list never arrived.
oh my sister did that too when we found out the twins were boys oh you cant use this name coz im having that when i have kids, i didnt even like the name so shes safe but i did tell her well im the one pregnant with boys, your not even pregnant so if we pick it, we pick it!
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