My grandfather is known by a nickname that has nothing to do with his given names. His mum named him Herbert James while his father was away (at war I think) & when he came back said I'm not calling my son that, we'll call him Joe. He's been Joe ever since.
I don't have remorse about DS's name or my own, although I like to be called a shortened version of my name, but find it difficult to introduce myself by the shortened version if I'm giving my surname.
I know lots of poeple who go by their middle names but not who've actually legally changed their name to something else.
I love DS' name. I really did prefer the other name we'd chosen for him, Arlo, but similar to Nelle, I hate the way its pronounced in Australia i.e. -Ah-lo instead of Are-lowe.
Im acutally more worried about this time around, cos the anme we've chosen is somthing of a compromise, there is nothing that we both really loved.
This is why I insisted to DH that DS has the name I have loved all my life. I did NOT want to regret the name we picked if it wasn't the one I wanted. I know very well DH wouldn't regret anything, he's a male and the child grows into a name and he'd be happy with anything, but for me, a name is soooo important (i've been obsessed with baby names for as long as I can remember). I adore all my three kids names and that's because I was lucky and chose them all and they were all names that were very special to me.
However if I did want to change a name, I'd use middle name or just make one up, but wouldn't change it legally.
I have an old friend who still doesn't like the name she gave her son, 6 years later. She never changed it but always goes on about it. dont' think that's very nice for the son..
Absolutely no regrets about the names we have given our children... and just as well... the research was soooo rigorous!
My name is quite unusual and my parents said they gave me a plainer middle name just incase I didn't like my first name... but I'm ok with my first name, it suits me. We did the opposite with our kids, gave them unusal first names... but REALLY unusual middle names! LOL If this wasn't a forum with general public access i'd share the names but I don't want the world to know the names of my children.
Personally i couldn't change a child's name... well, it would have to be a REAL good reason. I think past generations got it right with simply allocating an alternative name, or using their middle name instead without an offical change. JMO.
I dont think I could ever change a baby's/child's name at any time. My cousin named her baby Monique, sent out thankyou cards and intro cards with Monique on them and then changed her name to Rachel only 4 weeks later. Bizarre! I couldnt get my head around it. My aunty was named elizabeth angela but my grandmother never intended on calling her elizabeth so always called her angela....i still cant figure out why she wasnt called angela to begin with!!! Elizabeth isnt even a family name so who knows.
DH and I always intended on calling our DS max, but when we saw him, he didnt look like a max and after a day of rethinking the name, we settled with Isaac. Isaac wasnt even on our list of preferred names, I hadnt ever considered it before, it just came to us on the day. Im not religious or anything, but it was like he was given the name by someone else. It suits him perfectly too, Isaac means the laughing one and that describes my son so well...he is such a giggler, right from an early age!
I'm glad we had a girl because we were set on our girls name but couldn't find a boys name we both absolutely loved! I think if we'd had a boy I wouldn't be too excited about his name and would probably be questioning if it was the right choice. But then, I would never change it, I think all kids grow into their names eventually anyway.
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