Im wondering... is it mean of me to not want my hubby to pass down a family name (his Dad's name that is also his middle name)??
He wants to use this name as a middle name if we have a boy.
Trouble is.. I really don't like the name.. and with the first name we had chosen (which has family significance for my side) - it just doesn't go or sound right and makes the whole name when put together sound like its been chosen by parents who are not so intelligent..
And so he manipulatively said the other night that if I dont allow him to use the name, he will just hold it against me for the rest of my life.. and so I caved in and said we could use our second choice of boy's name with his family's hand me down name, as our first choice just doesn't go with the name he wants as a middle name.. (obviously I am feeling quite mad about it all and planning to tell him how he has made me feel later on..).
So now he's really happy at the moment because he has finally got his way (after 2 years nearly of disputing it). And I feel upset because the name we had picked as our first, as I said is significant for my family.. and even my Mum had been so happy we had like it so much to use it.. but now we are no longer going to be using it by the looks of things..
I just feel that Im the one going to be going through all the pain and trauma of giving birth to this baby.. and he's also getting his family (surname) passed down, so why is it such a big deal to pass down another name from his side too? why should he get the biggest say?? Am I being unfair?
I mean if I was really nasty.. I could just be like his best friends wife and say 'hey Im giving birth, I pick the names!'.. (which she did) but I guess that's just not me..