ok, so im certainly NOT pregnant
but we had my MIL and FIL over last night for dinner, and MIL straight out asked me if we were going to go back for more (babies) that is.
i said that once Oscar is about 18mths old we will try for a second. We then got onto the topic of names i told her we already have 2 boys name picked out and as for girls we have a small list to choose from, she then went on to ask (she pretty much told me) if we were going to put her name somewhere in there, i straight out said no (politely) of course she looked horrified. i then went on to say that Oscar has been slightly named after her as Slaide is MIL maiden name apparently thats not enough!
she then did the whole silent treatment on me, i explained that not even my mums name will put incorparated into DD to be's name.
so my point of this story/rant is, to ask you ladies did you name ALL your children after parents/in laws/ grandparents etc...?
she made me feel really horrible, and im NOT even pregnant haha.
she then sat there and nit picked at our names of choice- i was this (-------------------) close to screaming and reminding her they are OUR children!
Boys- we have chosen will be
Archie Samuel
Cruz Timothy
Girls- we have chosen
Asia Madison
Marlowe Heidy
Electra Sage
Brynn Eaden
Taitym Storm
My first rule is that our babies will not be knowingly named after any relative whatsoever. I like to give them their own name and not be named after a family member. MIL is **** out of luck because we have the same name and I won't be naming my daughter the same name as me She keeps asking us if we have picked names, but we say even if we did we're not telling you!
we gave DD our mum's middle name as her middle name (lucky both our mums have the same middle name!). If we have another girl I doubt she will be 'named' after anyone. if we have a boy, I'd like to carry on the tradition of "william" as a middle name (was my dad's dad first name, my dad's middle name and my older brother's middle name), but that's about as far as we'll go.
I say, they are your kids, name them whatever you want! Your MIL has had her chance to name her kids, now it is your turn.
None of our children will have any family names. I want them to have their own name. Plus they have alot of grandparents and great parents and other family members that they could be named after, that if we did use one, then the others will feel left out.
Quite rude of your MIL to get cranky over such a silly thing.
It's that exact reason that no one knows the names we've picked for our bubby. We love them, and if we tell someone and they make a fuss of the name, then it will spoil it, and I'll want to change it. My MIL is contactly trying to drag the names out of me. Then when I don't tell her she say they must be bad then if you don't want to share. Not bad, we just want a suprise for everyone when bubby is born. Geez what's th big deal about knowing it's name beforehand.
The only two family things we're putting in our kids' names are:
1. First born daughter will have my name as her middle, it's kinda a tradition from my mum, nan, and great-grandma (I'm Tenielle Leanne, mum's Leanne Margaret, nan's Margaret Frances, and great-grandma was Frances)
2. First-born son will have a middle name starting with J for similar reasons as the daughter - DH has a J, FIL has a J, and GFIL had a J.
Unless someone in my family dies who I'm close to while I'm preg (knock on wood), there will be no other family-naming.
Okay, next part, the names you've chosen. Obviously you like them, so I'm not going to say you should or shouldn't, but I'll give my opinions
Archie Samuel - Love Samuel, not keen on Archie unless it's short for something. Cruz Timothy - Again, I prefer Timothy to Cruz. Just don't likt the name Cruz. Asia Madison - Looooove Madison (though I'd spell it with two Ds), not a fan of Asia Marlowe Heidy - I love both of these, but again I'd change the spelling to Heidi. Electra Sage - Sage is lovely, but Electra's a bit... I dunno, really, I just don't think it fits a baby or child... Brynn Eaden - Ooooh, love both of these... Taitym Storm - Storm is an awesome middle name! Not a fan of it as a first, but as a middle it's great. Taitym is quite nice too, lots of nickname potential (a good trait in my book)
thanks ladies, makes me feel a little less of a monster.
the thing that annoys me most is that her maiden name is Oscars middle name!!!
grrr makes me mad she is so selfish!
thanks for listening and responding ladies.
Charlotte's middle name is Paige, as Page was my maternal grandmother's maiden name. Her cousin born a few month earlier is Lucy Elizabeth, the Elizabeth for DHs mum, so luckily got out of that one lol
But my mum didn't like her name, so didn't want us to use it.
The next one if it is a boy will have a middle name for both our families - my grandfather and DHs father shared a middle name.
It is a girl she will be named using my mums maiden name or middle name, as mum died last year.
Name your kids whatever you want! (Well, Heavenly Hiranni Tiger Lily is a bit OTT ) She sounds incredibly rude to me, and I don't think I would have been so restrained with my response lol so good on you
Hehehe... I have one of those MILs!!! I am feeling your pain. After a while we become professionals at deep breathing and counting backwards from ten.
We have chosen family names as middle names for our kids... we are only planning to have 3 (hopefully), so either way someone is going to miss out. I agree that it is your choice and nobody elses. And she should feel very special to have scoredOscars middle name.
Some parents just don't know when to butt out... its a good lesson for us in 'what not to do when our kids grow up'.
Good luck and stick to your guns!
When I was pg with DD1, we told MIL that the middle name would be Fay after my hubbies mentor and our friend who died of cancer 4 years ago and MIL was not happy. In the end DD1's middle name was a combination of both our mum's first names so Julianne. DD2 has the middle name of Fay and no other family member got a look in.
That is a bit selfish that your MIL is looking for more after having her maiden name as your son's middle name. Sheesh.
We didn't name any of our kids after family members for this reason, I didn't want to deal with potential hurt feelings & grandparents feeling left out...
We did end up giving DS2 and DD2 middle names that related back to us. But no grandparents!
It's such a tricky thing, some parents expect it... I think maybe it was the done thing years ago, these days it is really up to you.
Your MIL has already got a look in, and as you say your own mother hasn't.. I would just turn a deaf ear to any complaints
I am in the same situation, I have my second due in 4 weeks and I am constantly being asked what names we will be using for the 2nd name.
My DH family is Greek and there is a long standing tradition that the first boy and girl born have a name from the fathers side. (or FILas in my case, my husband couldn't give a rats). During my 1st pregnancy he would just call my belly Gweneth, as that is the name that is 'next in line' to be used. I never hated the name, but I certainly did by the time the baby came. My DH just seems to able to ignore his father, so after our DD was born he named her Charlize Mackenzie. I didn't mind either, and was too exhausted to think of any myself so I went with both. Luck has it that Mackenzie was my Nanna's maiden name, so even though I didn't chose it AND DH didn't even know that, my FIL got a bee in his bonnet that the name came from my side of the family. (I know wished I had never mentioned it) ARRRR
He now calls my belly Ellenore, or Ellie. I have said MANY a time that although that name is very nice, my cousin used it, so I wouldn't be using it. And then he will bring out the family tree so I can see other female names that have preceeded my unborn daughter. I was thinking about using my DH sisters name as a middle name as she is a fantastic role model and is currently working her way up the political ladder in Canberra, but after ALLL this talk I really don't feel like using any.
So my point to the story was (sorry about the essay) is I don't think these grandparents realised that if they just shut-up we would be more likely to use their names!!!! After moaning about it to my mum for both pregnancies, she has said 1 sentance to me
'You don't get to name many children in your lifetime,so make sure you pick something you want and don't worry about what everyone else thinks.'
P.S. I REALLY like all of your names. They are all so different. I like the idea of Brynn for a girl. And I love Storm - no-one would mess with her on the playground!!!
I am in the same situation, I have my second due in 4 weeks and I am constantly being asked what names we will be using for the 2nd name.
My DH family is Greek and there is a long standing tradition that the first boy and girl born have a name from the fathers side. (or FILas in my case, my husband couldn't give a rats). During my 1st pregnancy he would just call my belly Gweneth, as that is the name that is 'next in line' to be used. I never hated the name, but I certainly did by the time the baby came. My DH just seems to able to ignore his father, so after our DD was born he named her Charlize Mackenzie. I didn't mind either, and was too exhausted to think of any myself so I went with both. Luck has it that Mackenzie was my Nanna's maiden name, so even though I didn't chose it AND DH didn't even know that, my FIL got a bee in his bonnet that the name came from my side of the family. (I know wished I had never mentioned it) ARRRR
He now calls my belly Ellenore, or Ellie. I have said MANY a time that although that name is very nice, my cousin used it, so I wouldn't be using it. And then he will bring out the family tree so I can see other female names that have preceeded my unborn daughter. I was thinking about using my DH sisters name as a middle name as she is a fantastic role model and is currently working her way up the political ladder in Canberra, but after ALLL this talk I really don't feel like using any.
So my point to the story was (sorry about the essay) is I don't think these grandparents realised that if they just shut-up we would be more likely to use their names!!!! After moaning about it to my mum for both pregnancies, she has said 1 sentance to me
'You don't get to name many children in your lifetime,so make sure you pick something you want and don't worry about what everyone else thinks.'
P.S. I REALLY like all of your names. They are all so different. I like the idea of Brynn for a girl. And I love Storm - no-one would mess with her on the playground!!!
Grrr what a witch. She should be thrilled her maiden name is included! On the other hand, I adore MIL stories because mine is so awful so it helps to hear other people's LOL!
Our first son will have my father's name as his middle name (Graham). We are not telling dad - it will be a surprise!!
This is because both DH and I adore my dad. DH and dad get on really well, go out together etc. And dad is an incredible and inspiring man.
Mum doesn't get a name, because her name is already my middle name. Ditto DH with his father.
MIL is a total ************** so nope nothing there! DH and I agree on that.
DD has my middle name as her middle name (and no-one else in the family has that name)
DS has DH's middle name as his middle name which is also fil's middle name (apparently it goes back 5 gens, but I was only interested cause it was DH's)
Not sure if we are having anymore, but if we were to have another girl, I would use my Mum's middle name as it is also SIL's middle name, and if we have another boy, I would use Dad's middle name. Only cause we like them and want/wanted to use them.
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She keeps asking us if we have picked names, but we say even if we did we're not telling you!
) She sounds incredibly rude to me, and I don't think I would have been so restrained with my response lol so good on you
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