There is a difference in stealing a name and using the same name. There are always going to people with your name, no biggie. It's when people you're close with and know you like the name use it there is a problem.
When I was ten I picked a name for my first daughter, Ryan Alyce, that has a lot of family meaning. I told my cousin and when she got pregnant she told my grandmother she was going to name her Ryan Alyce, making my grandmother cry, because of my name. I was devastated. She decided not to use it, but now when I announce it, it will seem like I stole the name from that brat.
If any one of my friends said they wanted to use a name, I wouldn't use it. Chances are if they're bringing the name up, they love it.
A friend was having twins - boy and a girl - she was 33 wks and I was 25 wks with DD. I told her I liked the name Lily at the time - and knew we were having a girl. She said yes that's nice but she's not into all the flower name bit ...
WELL she went into early labour ar 36 wks, had the twins and named her girl ..... LILY ..... I was soooo peeved. And every time I hear the name it makes me cross
However, I was then watching Mona Lisa Smile when I was around 37 wks and liked the name Giselle (which she is ) and only told my husband - everyone else thought we were gunna call her Sienna
You can't 'steal' a name. I so often hear stories of some person who liked a name, told a friend and then that friend used it. If you really like a name for your child it shouldn't matter if your friend has used it too. If it makes you upset that is fine just try and get over it. Nothing is worse then hearing the story for the 100th time 10 years after it happened. I use my name as case in point. I was named Jeanette after my grandmother Jean. My aunty wanted to call her daughter Jeanette but had a boy. My whole life all I ever heard was how my cousin would have been Jeanette if he had been a girl. Arrrgh! Besides it is not as if people say "Hey I heard so an so likes the name 'X', lets use it just to **** them off". For all we know the person who used the name we liked put a lot of though and reason into picking the name, same way we did.
Last edited by Macca79; January 15th, 2009 at 07:19 AM.
yeah it is annoying. for first pregnancy i told everyone our planned middle name would be the first name and then when bub was born lo and behold we decided we liked hannah as a name better. ;-) this time round i have been quite open with the names i like.
DH and i were going through a name book and came up with a name we liked but it sounded very familiar. i then remembered that a friend of mine who is due a week before me had 3 names that she has loved since highschool and so i emailed her to confirm that it was the name she liked, saying that if it is i would cross if off my list and not think of it again. she wrote back that yes it was the same name and if i really liked it it didnt matter to her if we named our baby the same as hers it just means there would be two ethans coming into the world. i thought that was absolutely generous and lovely!!! we usually cling to our liked names so getting this perspective was refreshing. and truly.. does it matter if there are two babies with the same name? not really.
I think it depends on the situation.
If two people re pregnant at the same time and one uses the name the other was going to use, especially if they know the sex, then i think thats a bit rude.
But to rule out a name because someone (who may not be UTD, or even TTC) has told you they like it? Soooo, what if they dont ever have a baby, or dont have one of the right sex, are you suppoed to not use a name on the off chance that they do have the right baby, and still like the name by then?
What if that name happened to be at the top of your list to, and you are pregnant, but hadnt been talking names and they just blurt out oh i really like Susan for a girl...so what you cant use it now? Not in my book.
It would bother me personally! I would go out of my way not to name my child someone I know well's favourite name out of respect, but that's just me and how I feel! Not everyone feels the same way and that's great.
With DS2 we didn't tell anyone (except my sis) what we were naming him so we didn't risk anyone else hearing it and liking it too! We will do the same thing this time around
thats the reason why i keep names a secret and if i do tell its only those that i know really well.
turns out if this one is a girl then a close friend of mine online has the name chosen if she ever has a lil girl. first and middle name and even the same spelling. we dont care if it happens though.
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) and only told my husband - everyone else thought we were gunna call her Sienna 
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